You can't go through life trying to
sound like you're more intelligent than everyone
else... especially when you're 22... unless you
want women to respond to you the way the woman in
the bar responded to Russell Crowe's advances in
"A Beautiful Mind". Watch the movie if you need
the specifics.
It's OK to be smart. No problem.
But when you try to TALK like you're smart, you
usually end up coming off as insecure and nerdy.
Case in point: Your email.
And no, saying "gay-assed" doesn't make you
cool.
Trust me.
Now, as for your girl situation...
If you've met a girl on the internet and
emailed her back and forth 60 or 70 times, then
you should probably do what has worked for you so
far as far as the Oldsmobile Aurora Vent Visor works,
and don't change what you're doing just
because you read my book.
You're going to want to practice for a little
while before you go completely changing your
entire personality with a woman who thinks she's
going to be marrying you soon. (Did I say that?)
You're dealing with a classic problem:
You don't know how to meet women effectively,
so this one woman is VERY IMPORTANT.
If you start doing the things that I recommend
with her, and it doesn't work out, you'll blame
me... when it was probably your fault for acting
like her girlfriend for the last 47 years by
email.
Go meet more women. Practice what you've
learned. And do what you've been doing with the
girl you met online, because if you change into a
different person right before her eyes she might
think you're psycho... and get a restraining order
against you. Hell, I'm trying to figure out why
she doesn't have one ALREADY the way you talk...
Thursday, January 3, 2008
Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship
I know that flirting can be a huge source of contempt in relationships. Some guys see their partners flirting with other men and go ballistic. Some women see guys flirting with other women and think he's trying to score.
And while I know that flirting can be a dangerous game if you're playing with the wrong people, I also believe that flirting can be healthy - as long as you're taking the energy you're building and putting it back into your relationship.
So, what can innocent flirting with a co-worker, stranger, or random bartender do to help your relationship? More than you may think.
Flirting Gives You Confidence
A relationship progresses after some time, and both sides fall into the same rut of Friday pizza, Saturday out, and sleepy Sunday. Same old, same old. The message: We're stuck together, we're comfortable together, and we may be perfectly content together.
All well and good, but that does as much for your romantic confidence as having spinach in your teeth. What flirting allows you to do is feel like you're impressing another person and being attractive to another person - without the baggage, stigma, and pressures of the next step. Bringing that sexual and romantic confidence back to your relationship helps you - and strengthens the relationship across the board.
Flirting Keeps You Sharp
Being wanted is one of our most basic needs. Sometimes, when we're in relationships, we don't always get that positive vibe - that we're wanted, needed, and desired.
Every once in a while, flirting can reinforce that primitive need of feeling valued. And that little innocent dialogue with some stranger in an auto parts store who is looking for an Oldsmobile Alero Vent Visor may be all the kick-start you need to lose a little weight or change up your hair or whatever it is that you want to do to make yourself feel better about yourself. Which has benefits for everyone involved.
Flirting Lets You Build Up Sexual Energy
Some shrinks say it's OK to fantasize about anyone you want and build up a head of steam - as long as you, well, go ahead then and release that pent up energy with your partner.
So in a way, you can use flirting as a kind of foreplay. Build a little frisky tension with the barista, get warmed up, then bring home the dividends. And when you're at home, leave a copy of this list around the house. Think of it as a kind of flirting with your partner - and a fun to-do list.
Flirting Reminds You How Good You Have It
The fun of flirting is that there are no strings attached. Just some good ole banter with jokes, laughs, and some well-timed sexual innuendo. Fun at first. But when you think of the long process that comes after, it makes you realize that what you've got at home is exactly what you want.
I can hear you now: too much flirting can lead to real temptation. Here's what we told Men's Health readers to do when faced with a home-wrecking temptress.
And while I know that flirting can be a dangerous game if you're playing with the wrong people, I also believe that flirting can be healthy - as long as you're taking the energy you're building and putting it back into your relationship.
So, what can innocent flirting with a co-worker, stranger, or random bartender do to help your relationship? More than you may think.
Flirting Gives You Confidence
A relationship progresses after some time, and both sides fall into the same rut of Friday pizza, Saturday out, and sleepy Sunday. Same old, same old. The message: We're stuck together, we're comfortable together, and we may be perfectly content together.
All well and good, but that does as much for your romantic confidence as having spinach in your teeth. What flirting allows you to do is feel like you're impressing another person and being attractive to another person - without the baggage, stigma, and pressures of the next step. Bringing that sexual and romantic confidence back to your relationship helps you - and strengthens the relationship across the board.
Flirting Keeps You Sharp
Being wanted is one of our most basic needs. Sometimes, when we're in relationships, we don't always get that positive vibe - that we're wanted, needed, and desired.
Every once in a while, flirting can reinforce that primitive need of feeling valued. And that little innocent dialogue with some stranger in an auto parts store who is looking for an Oldsmobile Alero Vent Visor may be all the kick-start you need to lose a little weight or change up your hair or whatever it is that you want to do to make yourself feel better about yourself. Which has benefits for everyone involved.
Flirting Lets You Build Up Sexual Energy
Some shrinks say it's OK to fantasize about anyone you want and build up a head of steam - as long as you, well, go ahead then and release that pent up energy with your partner.
So in a way, you can use flirting as a kind of foreplay. Build a little frisky tension with the barista, get warmed up, then bring home the dividends. And when you're at home, leave a copy of this list around the house. Think of it as a kind of flirting with your partner - and a fun to-do list.
Flirting Reminds You How Good You Have It
The fun of flirting is that there are no strings attached. Just some good ole banter with jokes, laughs, and some well-timed sexual innuendo. Fun at first. But when you think of the long process that comes after, it makes you realize that what you've got at home is exactly what you want.
I can hear you now: too much flirting can lead to real temptation. Here's what we told Men's Health readers to do when faced with a home-wrecking temptress.
How To "Sell Yourself" To An Attractive Woman
There's a HUGE mistake that I see guys making
ALL THE TIME when it comes to women and dating.
And it goes a little somethin' like this...
GUYS OFTEN MAKE THE MISTAKE OF "SELLING" TOO
FAR IN ADVANCE INSTEAD OF JUST GETTING TO THE
NEXT STEP.
For example, let's say that a guy is talking
to a woman at a coffee shop. Maybe she's sitting
at the next table over and they strike up a
conversation about the weather.
Further, let's say that the woman is unusually
attractive and the man is unusually AVERAGE in his
approach and method of communicating that he's interetsted.
This guy might say something like:
"So, let me guess... you have a boyfriend, right?"
Or...
"OK, I have to tell you... I find you really
attractive and I'd like to take you out sometime."
I'm sure you've seen this kind of thing a
thousand times in your life.
But what's going on here? Is the guy actually
asking a casual question?
HELL NO.
The guy is literally communicating that he'd
like to PURSUE A RELATIONSHIP with the woman.
Yea, and even worse, he's doing it within a
few minutes of meeting her!
Explained differently, the guy is trying to
sell the woman on a relationship in the future
based on five minutes of conversation.
And what happens? Of course...
The woman puts up the resistance INSTANTLY.
It's all kinds of wrong in all kinds of ways.
It's WUSSY behavior in its purest form.
It's one of the biggest mistakes men make,
period.
And of course this is only the tip of the
iceberg.
Guys do this kind of "selling too far ahead"
stuff all the way along unlike the selling
of Mitsubishi Raider Vent Visor.
Guys ask things like:
"So, am I your type?"
...and...
"How do you like me so far?"
...and...
"What do you look for in an ideal partner?"
Ahhhhhhh!
NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!
You can't do this stuff! If you do you'll
create an instant barrier to success!
So what's the alternative?
I really thought you'd never ask.
The alternative is to know all the steps
from the first meeting all the way to the bedroom
(and beyond), and ONLY WORK ON GETTING TO THE
NEXT STEP in each situation.
If you're talking to a girl, just get her
email.
If you're talking on the phone, just arrange
a meeting for a cup of tea.
If you're kissing, just go back to your place
to be alone.
ALL THE TIME when it comes to women and dating.
And it goes a little somethin' like this...
GUYS OFTEN MAKE THE MISTAKE OF "SELLING" TOO
FAR IN ADVANCE INSTEAD OF JUST GETTING TO THE
NEXT STEP.
For example, let's say that a guy is talking
to a woman at a coffee shop. Maybe she's sitting
at the next table over and they strike up a
conversation about the weather.
Further, let's say that the woman is unusually
attractive and the man is unusually AVERAGE in his
approach and method of communicating that he's interetsted.
This guy might say something like:
"So, let me guess... you have a boyfriend, right?"
Or...
"OK, I have to tell you... I find you really
attractive and I'd like to take you out sometime."
I'm sure you've seen this kind of thing a
thousand times in your life.
But what's going on here? Is the guy actually
asking a casual question?
HELL NO.
The guy is literally communicating that he'd
like to PURSUE A RELATIONSHIP with the woman.
Yea, and even worse, he's doing it within a
few minutes of meeting her!
Explained differently, the guy is trying to
sell the woman on a relationship in the future
based on five minutes of conversation.
And what happens? Of course...
The woman puts up the resistance INSTANTLY.
It's all kinds of wrong in all kinds of ways.
It's WUSSY behavior in its purest form.
It's one of the biggest mistakes men make,
period.
And of course this is only the tip of the
iceberg.
Guys do this kind of "selling too far ahead"
stuff all the way along unlike the selling
of Mitsubishi Raider Vent Visor.
Guys ask things like:
"So, am I your type?"
...and...
"How do you like me so far?"
...and...
"What do you look for in an ideal partner?"
Ahhhhhhh!
NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!
You can't do this stuff! If you do you'll
create an instant barrier to success!
So what's the alternative?
I really thought you'd never ask.
The alternative is to know all the steps
from the first meeting all the way to the bedroom
(and beyond), and ONLY WORK ON GETTING TO THE
NEXT STEP in each situation.
If you're talking to a girl, just get her
email.
If you're talking on the phone, just arrange
a meeting for a cup of tea.
If you're kissing, just go back to your place
to be alone.
Learning How To Approach Women
It doesn't take 20 years of studying human
behavior to figure out that looks and money
attract women.
But, what YOU'RE suggesting here, by the way
you're phrasing your question, is that all other
things like Mitsubishi Pickup Vent Visor
being equal, LOOKS and MONEY are MORE
important than personality... and that, in fact,
if a man has those things, he can attract more
women than a guy that doesn't have the benefit of
good looks or money (but who has the most
attractive personality).
Did that make sense? That sounded like a math
problem from middle school.
My point is, that if you have good looks, and
lots of money, you will definitely have an
advantage.
Looks and money will allow you to hang out in
places like the South Of France, where a drink is
forty bucks... and there are lots of babes there.
But here's the KEY...
A guy who is AMAZINGLY handsome and SUPER rich
will still fail MOST of the time with the women he
interacts with if his PERSONALTIY isn't together.
And especially if he's too much of a WUSSY.
On the other hand, a guy who REALLY understands
what makes women feel ATTRACTION, and knows how to
interact with them in a way that grabs their
attention and keeps it can succeed often, even if
he's broke and ugly.
You'll notice that the rich and handsome guys
that are the REAL mac daddies are the ones who
ALSO understand women - and have Cocky, Funny,
Dominant personalities as well.
The reason why the show you're referring to
gets so much attention has NOTHING TO DO with the
logic you're using.
behavior to figure out that looks and money
attract women.
But, what YOU'RE suggesting here, by the way
you're phrasing your question, is that all other
things like Mitsubishi Pickup Vent Visor
being equal, LOOKS and MONEY are MORE
important than personality... and that, in fact,
if a man has those things, he can attract more
women than a guy that doesn't have the benefit of
good looks or money (but who has the most
attractive personality).
Did that make sense? That sounded like a math
problem from middle school.
My point is, that if you have good looks, and
lots of money, you will definitely have an
advantage.
Looks and money will allow you to hang out in
places like the South Of France, where a drink is
forty bucks... and there are lots of babes there.
But here's the KEY...
A guy who is AMAZINGLY handsome and SUPER rich
will still fail MOST of the time with the women he
interacts with if his PERSONALTIY isn't together.
And especially if he's too much of a WUSSY.
On the other hand, a guy who REALLY understands
what makes women feel ATTRACTION, and knows how to
interact with them in a way that grabs their
attention and keeps it can succeed often, even if
he's broke and ugly.
You'll notice that the rich and handsome guys
that are the REAL mac daddies are the ones who
ALSO understand women - and have Cocky, Funny,
Dominant personalities as well.
The reason why the show you're referring to
gets so much attention has NOTHING TO DO with the
logic you're using.
Getting "Back Into The Game" With Women
It is SO important that guys understand the
distinction between "dating scene" and "long-term
relationship scene" when it comes to women and
interacting with them.
Many of the things that make a long-term
relationship great will KILL your chances
INSTANTLY with a woman that you don't know. I'll
talk about this more in a moment.
I think that as guys, most of us want to do the
right thing, treat others well, and live with
integrity.
There are of course exceptions to this rule,
but I think that most of us know at a very deep
level that treating others well, being honest,
having integrity, and living an authentic life
leads to happiness... while being dishonest,
treating others poorly, putting our integrity
aside for selfish reasons, etc. leads to that
constant, negative, dragging state of body and
mind.
The problem arises when we go out into the
world to find a mate is different from finding
Mitsubishi Outlander Vent Visor. It matters not whether
we're looking for a wife or a one-night stand...
As soon as we see a really attractive woman,
most of us guys become nervous, self conscious,
and insecure. We feel excitement and fear at the
same time. The first impulse is to approach and
give compliments in a way that says "You are a
beautiful goddess, and I am a mere mortal man...
Please, if you would, see your way clear to give
me a chance to show you how much I adore you."
If the goddess indulges us for a moment, the
next impulse is usually to provide gifts and food,
and to show her what a great provider we are.
Of course, not every man experiences things in
exactly the same way, but you can probably
empathize with what I'm saying.
Here's the deal:
I USED TO BE EXACTLY LIKE THIS. I know EXACTLY
what it's like to want a woman's attention but not
know how to get it... so I'd give compliments,
offer gifts and food, and try every other "nice"
trick in the book.
I did this for a long time. Many years, in
fact.
I used this strategy long enough to realize a
few key things:
1) Approaching women this way doesn't usually
work. They immediately sense your insecurity, and
mentally classify you as "average" and "like the
other 10 guys that approached her today", etc.
2) ATTRACTION is a completely illogical process.
ATTRACTION also isn't a choice. ATTRACTION is a
response to certain things... and it happens on
it's own.
3) Being a good guy is an important part of life.
Treating others well and always doing the right
thing leads to things like: A) Liking yourself, B)
Happiness, C) Good friendships, etc.
4) Being a "nice guy" when it comes to women and
dating, especially when it is used enough to make
you qualify as a WUSSY, is a REALLY REALLY BAD
idea.
5) There are certain techniques that can be
learned which will help you get past the initial
meeting and dating period... and help you not only
stand out as a "not average" guy, but also create
the magical emotion of ATTRACTION inside women.
6) The great news is that you don't have to be
ultra handsome, rich, or famous to do it.
The gist of what I'm saying is that if you know
how to create this ATTRACTION inside of women,
then you can overcome just about any "social
stigma" that might be attached to you (yes, even 4
kids!).
Some people get upset when they read about my
techniques... they don't like the idea of making
fun of a woman, busting her balls, being Cocky and
Funny, etc.
They just want to "be themselves" and have a
woman "like them for who they are".
distinction between "dating scene" and "long-term
relationship scene" when it comes to women and
interacting with them.
Many of the things that make a long-term
relationship great will KILL your chances
INSTANTLY with a woman that you don't know. I'll
talk about this more in a moment.
I think that as guys, most of us want to do the
right thing, treat others well, and live with
integrity.
There are of course exceptions to this rule,
but I think that most of us know at a very deep
level that treating others well, being honest,
having integrity, and living an authentic life
leads to happiness... while being dishonest,
treating others poorly, putting our integrity
aside for selfish reasons, etc. leads to that
constant, negative, dragging state of body and
mind.
The problem arises when we go out into the
world to find a mate is different from finding
Mitsubishi Outlander Vent Visor. It matters not whether
we're looking for a wife or a one-night stand...
As soon as we see a really attractive woman,
most of us guys become nervous, self conscious,
and insecure. We feel excitement and fear at the
same time. The first impulse is to approach and
give compliments in a way that says "You are a
beautiful goddess, and I am a mere mortal man...
Please, if you would, see your way clear to give
me a chance to show you how much I adore you."
If the goddess indulges us for a moment, the
next impulse is usually to provide gifts and food,
and to show her what a great provider we are.
Of course, not every man experiences things in
exactly the same way, but you can probably
empathize with what I'm saying.
Here's the deal:
I USED TO BE EXACTLY LIKE THIS. I know EXACTLY
what it's like to want a woman's attention but not
know how to get it... so I'd give compliments,
offer gifts and food, and try every other "nice"
trick in the book.
I did this for a long time. Many years, in
fact.
I used this strategy long enough to realize a
few key things:
1) Approaching women this way doesn't usually
work. They immediately sense your insecurity, and
mentally classify you as "average" and "like the
other 10 guys that approached her today", etc.
2) ATTRACTION is a completely illogical process.
ATTRACTION also isn't a choice. ATTRACTION is a
response to certain things... and it happens on
it's own.
3) Being a good guy is an important part of life.
Treating others well and always doing the right
thing leads to things like: A) Liking yourself, B)
Happiness, C) Good friendships, etc.
4) Being a "nice guy" when it comes to women and
dating, especially when it is used enough to make
you qualify as a WUSSY, is a REALLY REALLY BAD
idea.
5) There are certain techniques that can be
learned which will help you get past the initial
meeting and dating period... and help you not only
stand out as a "not average" guy, but also create
the magical emotion of ATTRACTION inside women.
6) The great news is that you don't have to be
ultra handsome, rich, or famous to do it.
The gist of what I'm saying is that if you know
how to create this ATTRACTION inside of women,
then you can overcome just about any "social
stigma" that might be attached to you (yes, even 4
kids!).
Some people get upset when they read about my
techniques... they don't like the idea of making
fun of a woman, busting her balls, being Cocky and
Funny, etc.
They just want to "be themselves" and have a
woman "like them for who they are".
How Guys "Screw Up" First Dates...
I've noticed a KEY difference between the way
men and women act when they meet a "potential
mate".
Women usually act in a way that can be
characterized like this:
"You're interesting to me. I'd like to get to know
you better, and we can see where this goes."
Men usually act in a way that can be
characterized like this:
"I am so interested in you that I'm nervous. In
fact, I'm already thinking of you as a potential
girlfriend or wife... or at least a one-night
stand."
In other words, women are usually casual and
laid-back when they're first meeting a guy...
But GUYS tend to act like every girl is a
POTENTIAL WIFE.
As you can imagine, this creates a lot of
tension and pressure.
And I'm not talking about the GOOD kind,
either.
I'm talking about the kind that makes men
shiver and shake with nervousness, and women feel
uncomfortable because the MAN is acting
uncomfortable.
I KNOW that you can relate to this in some way.
THE ANSWER...
The simple solution to this is...
DON'T DO IT.
If you start acting all freakish and nervous
like a Mitsubishi Montero Vent Visor when
you're talking to a woman, you're probably
going to screw things up before they've even had a
chance to get started.
Treating a woman that you've just met as if she
very well could be the love of your life is
something you should NEVER do.
Instead, take a very different approach.
My favorite is to ASSUME that every woman has
SOMETHING that's going to annoy me, bother me, or
SCREW UP HER CHANCES with me.
So here it is again... one thing that most guys
who are unsuccessful with women do that screws
things up... one thing to AVOID:
DON'T TREAT A WOMAN YOU'VE JUST MET AS IF SHE'S A
POTENTIAL FUTURE WIFE OR GIRLFRIEND.
Instead, lean back. Be cool. Make jokes about
her screwing up her chances with you. Tell her
that she's a nice friend. Assume that she has
qualities that are going to annoy you, then point
them out.
Don't lose your composure. It can be fatal if
you do.
Another note:
Most guys don't "get" women.
And, unfortunately, most guys look for tricks
and "pick up lines" when it comes time to LEARN
how to meet women.
They don't realize that all the tricks in the
world aren't going to help them if they don't
UNDERSTAND what's "going on".
men and women act when they meet a "potential
mate".
Women usually act in a way that can be
characterized like this:
"You're interesting to me. I'd like to get to know
you better, and we can see where this goes."
Men usually act in a way that can be
characterized like this:
"I am so interested in you that I'm nervous. In
fact, I'm already thinking of you as a potential
girlfriend or wife... or at least a one-night
stand."
In other words, women are usually casual and
laid-back when they're first meeting a guy...
But GUYS tend to act like every girl is a
POTENTIAL WIFE.
As you can imagine, this creates a lot of
tension and pressure.
And I'm not talking about the GOOD kind,
either.
I'm talking about the kind that makes men
shiver and shake with nervousness, and women feel
uncomfortable because the MAN is acting
uncomfortable.
I KNOW that you can relate to this in some way.
THE ANSWER...
The simple solution to this is...
DON'T DO IT.
If you start acting all freakish and nervous
like a Mitsubishi Montero Vent Visor when
you're talking to a woman, you're probably
going to screw things up before they've even had a
chance to get started.
Treating a woman that you've just met as if she
very well could be the love of your life is
something you should NEVER do.
Instead, take a very different approach.
My favorite is to ASSUME that every woman has
SOMETHING that's going to annoy me, bother me, or
SCREW UP HER CHANCES with me.
So here it is again... one thing that most guys
who are unsuccessful with women do that screws
things up... one thing to AVOID:
DON'T TREAT A WOMAN YOU'VE JUST MET AS IF SHE'S A
POTENTIAL FUTURE WIFE OR GIRLFRIEND.
Instead, lean back. Be cool. Make jokes about
her screwing up her chances with you. Tell her
that she's a nice friend. Assume that she has
qualities that are going to annoy you, then point
them out.
Don't lose your composure. It can be fatal if
you do.
Another note:
Most guys don't "get" women.
And, unfortunately, most guys look for tricks
and "pick up lines" when it comes time to LEARN
how to meet women.
They don't realize that all the tricks in the
world aren't going to help them if they don't
UNDERSTAND what's "going on".
5 Truths About Women And Attraction
The most important step you can take is to
LEARN HOW ATTRACTION WORKS! You need to learn this
game so you know what's happening in future
situations... and, most importantly, you know what
to do to make women feel attracted to you from the
beginning (and, of course, how to NOT let your
inner WUSS rear its ugly head too often).
As you know, some of my favorite ways to do
this are by being Cocky and Funny, teasing women,
busting on them in a particular way, playing hard
to get, etc.
But if you want to learn how ATTRACTION works
and to make it work for YOU, then YOU'RE going to
have to go out and do it. No one else is going to
do it for you.
I did the trial-and-error thing. I tried all
kinds of stuff. In fact, I've probably tried more
different ideas for meeting women than anyone I
know.
The real shift towards success came when I
started making friends with guys who were very
successful with women... and then watching what
they did in person.
I found that these guys did things that THEY
WEREN'T EVEN aware of... things that made women
literally pursue THEM. I then took all of this
information and combined it with the other things
I had learned... I worked like a mad scientist for
a few years on this because I really wanted to get
this area of my life figured out.
Well, as you can imagine, I developed some
pretty amazing techniques for meeting women,
getting emails and phone numbers, taking things to
a "physical" level, and everything in between.
You have to do a lot of INNER work if you want
to be the kind of guy who can keep an amazing
woman.
When I was on my own personal quest to learn
how to attract women, I found that most of the
materials available only focused on the OUTER
game. In other words, they only talked about
techniques. They said "Just go up to a woman and
say HI..." but they didn't talk about HOW to say
the words, or how to understand what the woman
would be thinking when I did approach her... or
any of the million other "INNER GAME" issues
around meeting women.
After spending a few years figuring this stuff
out, I have realized that it is VITAL that a guy
get his Inner Game together FIRST.
Once you understand how and why women are
attracted to certain types of men, and how the
human "mating dance" works, you will SEE things
differently. You'll understand things in a new
way. It's like putting on a pair of 3-D glasses...
and seeing things in a totally new way.
Then, I think it's important to learn THE BEST
"techniques" and actual strategies for meeting
women... from where to go, to what to say, to how
to take things to a "physical" level smoothly and
without "rejection".
If you'd like to build a ROCK SOLID
like Mitsubishi Mirage Vent Visor "Inner
Game"... I'm talking about powerful self-
confidence and security in every situation... then
you really need to check out my programs that are
SPECIFICALLY designed to help you do it...
My "On Being A Man Who Naturally Attracts
Women" program is all about learning the skills
that most of us never learned from our dads. It's
about how to become the kind of MAN that women are
NATURALLY attracted to.
You hear women saying things like "I want a
REAL MAN" and "I don't want a BOY, I want a MAN".
Well, this program will explain to you EXACTLY
what that means, and, more importantly, it will
show you how to TRANSFORM yourself into a man that
women WANT.
LEARN HOW ATTRACTION WORKS! You need to learn this
game so you know what's happening in future
situations... and, most importantly, you know what
to do to make women feel attracted to you from the
beginning (and, of course, how to NOT let your
inner WUSS rear its ugly head too often).
As you know, some of my favorite ways to do
this are by being Cocky and Funny, teasing women,
busting on them in a particular way, playing hard
to get, etc.
But if you want to learn how ATTRACTION works
and to make it work for YOU, then YOU'RE going to
have to go out and do it. No one else is going to
do it for you.
I did the trial-and-error thing. I tried all
kinds of stuff. In fact, I've probably tried more
different ideas for meeting women than anyone I
know.
The real shift towards success came when I
started making friends with guys who were very
successful with women... and then watching what
they did in person.
I found that these guys did things that THEY
WEREN'T EVEN aware of... things that made women
literally pursue THEM. I then took all of this
information and combined it with the other things
I had learned... I worked like a mad scientist for
a few years on this because I really wanted to get
this area of my life figured out.
Well, as you can imagine, I developed some
pretty amazing techniques for meeting women,
getting emails and phone numbers, taking things to
a "physical" level, and everything in between.
You have to do a lot of INNER work if you want
to be the kind of guy who can keep an amazing
woman.
When I was on my own personal quest to learn
how to attract women, I found that most of the
materials available only focused on the OUTER
game. In other words, they only talked about
techniques. They said "Just go up to a woman and
say HI..." but they didn't talk about HOW to say
the words, or how to understand what the woman
would be thinking when I did approach her... or
any of the million other "INNER GAME" issues
around meeting women.
After spending a few years figuring this stuff
out, I have realized that it is VITAL that a guy
get his Inner Game together FIRST.
Once you understand how and why women are
attracted to certain types of men, and how the
human "mating dance" works, you will SEE things
differently. You'll understand things in a new
way. It's like putting on a pair of 3-D glasses...
and seeing things in a totally new way.
Then, I think it's important to learn THE BEST
"techniques" and actual strategies for meeting
women... from where to go, to what to say, to how
to take things to a "physical" level smoothly and
without "rejection".
If you'd like to build a ROCK SOLID
like Mitsubishi Mirage Vent Visor "Inner
Game"... I'm talking about powerful self-
confidence and security in every situation... then
you really need to check out my programs that are
SPECIFICALLY designed to help you do it...
My "On Being A Man Who Naturally Attracts
Women" program is all about learning the skills
that most of us never learned from our dads. It's
about how to become the kind of MAN that women are
NATURALLY attracted to.
You hear women saying things like "I want a
REAL MAN" and "I don't want a BOY, I want a MAN".
Well, this program will explain to you EXACTLY
what that means, and, more importantly, it will
show you how to TRANSFORM yourself into a man that
women WANT.
The Ultimate "Trick" For Meeting Women
I wanted to share a secret to attracting women
that I believe is one of the ULTIMATE advantages
you can have.
When I was first learning about how to get past
my internal fears... how to approach women and start
conversations... how to create attraction and
chemistry... and how to take things to the next
level... I wound up trying a TON of different
"tricks and techniques".
Whenever I found a new "trick" that worked for
me, I felt like I had just put another piece of the
puzzle together... that I had gotten just that
much closer to REALLY understanding how things
worked as for the Mitsubishi Lancer Vent Visor.
But there was another feeling that happened
even MORE often:
It was when I would try something that had
"worked" before, but it DIDN'T work this time.
It was the feeling that I must have MISSED
something... that I must not REALLY get it.
I'm sure you know exactly what I'm talking
about here.
It was probably a couple of YEARS after
starting my quest that I had what I consider to
be one of the biggest "Ah Ha!" experiences of my life.
Here's what my realization was:
The guys I knew who were the MOST successful
with women didn't read books to learn a bunch of "pick
up lines"... and they didn't rely on tricks to
attract women.
The guys I new who were MOST successful had a
certain something about them that just seemed to
MAGNETICALLY attract women.
In fact, these guys did and said things to
women that seemed like they COULDN'T work to create
attraction.
But it worked. It seemed to ALWAYS work.
At first, I just assumed that these guys must
be good-looking, or have some kind of natural charm
that I would never have.
It seemed like an "unfair advantage".
Well, I learned that it WAS actually an unfair
advantage. But I ALSO learned that it was
something that ANY guy can have.
WARNING: What I'm about to say might sound a
little "new-agey"... but stick with me.
This "Ah Ha!" led me to an even deeper and more
powerful realization:
These men who were consistently successful with
women had a QUALITY about them, and a deep
UNDERSTANDING of how male/female attraction
works...
...SO THEY DIDN'T NEED TECHNIQUES.
Because they had this magical quality, and
because they understood how to direct and channel any
situation and conversation... they created success
without needing the tricks.
In fact, one of my friends who was VERY good
with women started LEARNING some "pick up lines"
and other tricks, and started doing WORSE with
women.
True story.
He had the quality, and the tricks messed it up
for him!
Well, after really digging into this topic and
trying to translate this "secret knowledge"... and
how to develop this quality I speak of... into a
system that a regular guy could "get" use, I
finally create the Master Key.
It's a Master Key that will unlock doors that
NO guy with a bunch of "tricks and techniques" can
open.
It's a key that will attract -- AND KEEP -- the
more desirable and attractive women... the kinds
of women that most guys will NEVER even have a
chance to date.
that I believe is one of the ULTIMATE advantages
you can have.
When I was first learning about how to get past
my internal fears... how to approach women and start
conversations... how to create attraction and
chemistry... and how to take things to the next
level... I wound up trying a TON of different
"tricks and techniques".
Whenever I found a new "trick" that worked for
me, I felt like I had just put another piece of the
puzzle together... that I had gotten just that
much closer to REALLY understanding how things
worked as for the Mitsubishi Lancer Vent Visor.
But there was another feeling that happened
even MORE often:
It was when I would try something that had
"worked" before, but it DIDN'T work this time.
It was the feeling that I must have MISSED
something... that I must not REALLY get it.
I'm sure you know exactly what I'm talking
about here.
It was probably a couple of YEARS after
starting my quest that I had what I consider to
be one of the biggest "Ah Ha!" experiences of my life.
Here's what my realization was:
The guys I knew who were the MOST successful
with women didn't read books to learn a bunch of "pick
up lines"... and they didn't rely on tricks to
attract women.
The guys I new who were MOST successful had a
certain something about them that just seemed to
MAGNETICALLY attract women.
In fact, these guys did and said things to
women that seemed like they COULDN'T work to create
attraction.
But it worked. It seemed to ALWAYS work.
At first, I just assumed that these guys must
be good-looking, or have some kind of natural charm
that I would never have.
It seemed like an "unfair advantage".
Well, I learned that it WAS actually an unfair
advantage. But I ALSO learned that it was
something that ANY guy can have.
WARNING: What I'm about to say might sound a
little "new-agey"... but stick with me.
This "Ah Ha!" led me to an even deeper and more
powerful realization:
These men who were consistently successful with
women had a QUALITY about them, and a deep
UNDERSTANDING of how male/female attraction
works...
...SO THEY DIDN'T NEED TECHNIQUES.
Because they had this magical quality, and
because they understood how to direct and channel any
situation and conversation... they created success
without needing the tricks.
In fact, one of my friends who was VERY good
with women started LEARNING some "pick up lines"
and other tricks, and started doing WORSE with
women.
True story.
He had the quality, and the tricks messed it up
for him!
Well, after really digging into this topic and
trying to translate this "secret knowledge"... and
how to develop this quality I speak of... into a
system that a regular guy could "get" use, I
finally create the Master Key.
It's a Master Key that will unlock doors that
NO guy with a bunch of "tricks and techniques" can
open.
It's a key that will attract -- AND KEEP -- the
more desirable and attractive women... the kinds
of women that most guys will NEVER even have a
chance to date.
How To Get What You Want From Women
Let me ask you a question.
What is "SUCCESS" to you when it comes to
women?
If I asked you to give me a detailed
explanation of EXACTLY how your life would be if
you had ULTIMATE SUCCESS with women, could you do
it?
Sure, most guys would say something like,
"Success to me would be being able to walk up to
any woman and get a date with her"... or "Success
to me would be dating as many women as I
wanted"... or "Success to me would be having a
really sexy girlfriend", etc.
These are the kinds of answers I hear when I
ask guys this question.
But there's a PROBLEM with these answers.
NONE OF THEM REALLY MEAN ANYTHING.
If you learn how to approach any woman and get
a date, you'll soon find that you don't know what
to DO once you're actually out ON the dates... how
to take things to a physical level, how to kiss
her, etc...
If you start dating several women at a time,
you'll quickly realize that it's a MAJOR challenge
to juggle all of those relationships and maintain
a happy life...
If you find a really sexy girlfriend, there's a
good chance that she'll have a whole bunch of
personal issues and problems that you never
anticipated...
You have to be careful what you wish for in
life, because you'll often get it.
I've found that guys usually make TWO major
mistakes when it comes to SUCCESS with women:
1) Most guys haven't really thought through what
success means to them in detail.
2) Most guys base their personal idea of success
on what OTHERS want, and not what THEY want for
themselves like Mitsubishi Galant Vent Visor.
In fact, I was one of the guys that made BOTH
of these mistakes.
I can remember when I first decided to ONCE AND
FOR ALL learn how to be "successful" with women.
I had this idea in my mind that if I could just
learn how to get women's phone numbers quickly and
easily that I would be successful beyond my
wildest dreams.
So I went to work on figuring it out.
I probably spent a good six or twelve months
trying all kinds of different tricks to get
women's phone numbers quickly.
And I figured out some great techniques.
I can literally get a woman's number within a
few minutes of meeting her.
But once I learned this skill, I was hit with a
MAJOR realization: Most of the women I was meeting
never turned into DATES.
They either didn't return my calls, refused my
requests, or just plain flaked out on me.
It was VERY frustrating.
The other problem I had was looking around at
what OTHER guys were doing and saying, "I want to
be able to do what HE does..." or "I want to date
the kinds of women HE dates".
And I secretly had this idea that if I knew how
to date HOT women that all my friends would like
me more and think I was a really cool guy.
Well guess what?
First of all, just because another guy is doing
something, doesn't mean that it would make ME
happy. In fact, I realized that in many cases it
wasn't even making HIM happy.
I couldn't help comparing my success and the
women I was dating with other guys, and the women
they were dating.
But it was a trap.
The more a person looks at what OTHERS are
doing and focusing on that, the less satisfied
they are with what THEY are doing themselves.
And as far as other guys thinking I was "cool"
because I was dating beautiful women... WRONG
AGAIN.
Guys (even friends) usually envy you and resent
the fact that you have success and they don't.
Especially when it comes to really beautiful
women.
What is "SUCCESS" to you when it comes to
women?
If I asked you to give me a detailed
explanation of EXACTLY how your life would be if
you had ULTIMATE SUCCESS with women, could you do
it?
Sure, most guys would say something like,
"Success to me would be being able to walk up to
any woman and get a date with her"... or "Success
to me would be dating as many women as I
wanted"... or "Success to me would be having a
really sexy girlfriend", etc.
These are the kinds of answers I hear when I
ask guys this question.
But there's a PROBLEM with these answers.
NONE OF THEM REALLY MEAN ANYTHING.
If you learn how to approach any woman and get
a date, you'll soon find that you don't know what
to DO once you're actually out ON the dates... how
to take things to a physical level, how to kiss
her, etc...
If you start dating several women at a time,
you'll quickly realize that it's a MAJOR challenge
to juggle all of those relationships and maintain
a happy life...
If you find a really sexy girlfriend, there's a
good chance that she'll have a whole bunch of
personal issues and problems that you never
anticipated...
You have to be careful what you wish for in
life, because you'll often get it.
I've found that guys usually make TWO major
mistakes when it comes to SUCCESS with women:
1) Most guys haven't really thought through what
success means to them in detail.
2) Most guys base their personal idea of success
on what OTHERS want, and not what THEY want for
themselves like Mitsubishi Galant Vent Visor.
In fact, I was one of the guys that made BOTH
of these mistakes.
I can remember when I first decided to ONCE AND
FOR ALL learn how to be "successful" with women.
I had this idea in my mind that if I could just
learn how to get women's phone numbers quickly and
easily that I would be successful beyond my
wildest dreams.
So I went to work on figuring it out.
I probably spent a good six or twelve months
trying all kinds of different tricks to get
women's phone numbers quickly.
And I figured out some great techniques.
I can literally get a woman's number within a
few minutes of meeting her.
But once I learned this skill, I was hit with a
MAJOR realization: Most of the women I was meeting
never turned into DATES.
They either didn't return my calls, refused my
requests, or just plain flaked out on me.
It was VERY frustrating.
The other problem I had was looking around at
what OTHER guys were doing and saying, "I want to
be able to do what HE does..." or "I want to date
the kinds of women HE dates".
And I secretly had this idea that if I knew how
to date HOT women that all my friends would like
me more and think I was a really cool guy.
Well guess what?
First of all, just because another guy is doing
something, doesn't mean that it would make ME
happy. In fact, I realized that in many cases it
wasn't even making HIM happy.
I couldn't help comparing my success and the
women I was dating with other guys, and the women
they were dating.
But it was a trap.
The more a person looks at what OTHERS are
doing and focusing on that, the less satisfied
they are with what THEY are doing themselves.
And as far as other guys thinking I was "cool"
because I was dating beautiful women... WRONG
AGAIN.
Guys (even friends) usually envy you and resent
the fact that you have success and they don't.
Especially when it comes to really beautiful
women.
How To Approach A Woman & Take Her Home
If you meet a girl you really like, spark some
major chemistry, start kissing her, etc. you're
probably going to get some resistance if you look
at her and say "OK, let's leave your friends here
and go back to my place so I can SHAG you".
That's just a hunch.
But, if you meet her, spark the attraction,
start kissing, and then say... "Hey, come with
me", and then take her hand and lead her to
another part of the club or bar... or take her to
the dance floor... or some combination... and then
start kissing again... and then stop (two forward,
one back)... and then say, "Hey, I'm going to this
other bar, come along with me"... and then once
you're there you continue, all the way until
closing, when you say, "Hey, let's keep talking...
this is fun. Give me a ride home..." etc., etc.,
etc....
I think you can see where I'm going with this.
A woman wants to feel that things are
developing naturally, not that you are just trying
to get her into bed as fast as you can.
If the evening unfolds in a normal, natural
way, and you can progress from one level to the
next, you'll do very well and go very far.
Why do you lead her to another part of the
club, and then take her somewhere else?
Physically leading a woman is VERY powerful,
and leaving together/showing up somewhere else
together changes things. When you arrive at the
new place, even though you're the same two people
that just met, you're now TOGETHER at the new
place.
And when you suggest continuing to talk, and
her giving you a ride home (or some variation),
it's not like saying "Come shag me". You're making
it clear that you want to spend time with her, and
it leaves the possibility of ANYTHING happening
open.
And as for the girl you met in the parking lot
as you buy a Mitsubishi Endeavor Vent Visor and
who emailed you a week later saying "Let's pursue
a friendship first", what she was probably REALLY
saying is:
"I can't believe that I made out with you after
meeting you in a parking lot of a liquor store.
I'm not like that. So let's get together sometime
on a more casual basis, and if you DO EXACTLY WHAT
YOU DID WHEN WE FIRST MET I'LL PROBABLY WIND UP
MAKING OUT WITH YOU AGAIN."
Think about it.
Try this...
Don't talk to her for a few days.
Then, call her up and say "What are you doing
RIGHT NOW?... I think you should come over and
hang out with me."
Call on a Saturday or Sunday around noon.
If she comes over, immediately LEAVE after she
arrives.
Go have a cup of tea, do some window shopping,
and DON'T cling to her, look at her too much, or
act like you are feeling attracted to her. Lean
back. Tease her a lot. Tell her how she's screwing
up her chances with you, etc.
Finally, once you get back to your place,
proceed with The Kiss Test... and you'll be fine
from there.
You need to relax. Don't run like hell, and
don't get so hung up on this one girl.
We guys always want the one we can't have...
and it's a problem. Stay on track improving
yourself, meeting other women, etc. That's the
way.
major chemistry, start kissing her, etc. you're
probably going to get some resistance if you look
at her and say "OK, let's leave your friends here
and go back to my place so I can SHAG you".
That's just a hunch.
But, if you meet her, spark the attraction,
start kissing, and then say... "Hey, come with
me", and then take her hand and lead her to
another part of the club or bar... or take her to
the dance floor... or some combination... and then
start kissing again... and then stop (two forward,
one back)... and then say, "Hey, I'm going to this
other bar, come along with me"... and then once
you're there you continue, all the way until
closing, when you say, "Hey, let's keep talking...
this is fun. Give me a ride home..." etc., etc.,
etc....
I think you can see where I'm going with this.
A woman wants to feel that things are
developing naturally, not that you are just trying
to get her into bed as fast as you can.
If the evening unfolds in a normal, natural
way, and you can progress from one level to the
next, you'll do very well and go very far.
Why do you lead her to another part of the
club, and then take her somewhere else?
Physically leading a woman is VERY powerful,
and leaving together/showing up somewhere else
together changes things. When you arrive at the
new place, even though you're the same two people
that just met, you're now TOGETHER at the new
place.
And when you suggest continuing to talk, and
her giving you a ride home (or some variation),
it's not like saying "Come shag me". You're making
it clear that you want to spend time with her, and
it leaves the possibility of ANYTHING happening
open.
And as for the girl you met in the parking lot
as you buy a Mitsubishi Endeavor Vent Visor and
who emailed you a week later saying "Let's pursue
a friendship first", what she was probably REALLY
saying is:
"I can't believe that I made out with you after
meeting you in a parking lot of a liquor store.
I'm not like that. So let's get together sometime
on a more casual basis, and if you DO EXACTLY WHAT
YOU DID WHEN WE FIRST MET I'LL PROBABLY WIND UP
MAKING OUT WITH YOU AGAIN."
Think about it.
Try this...
Don't talk to her for a few days.
Then, call her up and say "What are you doing
RIGHT NOW?... I think you should come over and
hang out with me."
Call on a Saturday or Sunday around noon.
If she comes over, immediately LEAVE after she
arrives.
Go have a cup of tea, do some window shopping,
and DON'T cling to her, look at her too much, or
act like you are feeling attracted to her. Lean
back. Tease her a lot. Tell her how she's screwing
up her chances with you, etc.
Finally, once you get back to your place,
proceed with The Kiss Test... and you'll be fine
from there.
You need to relax. Don't run like hell, and
don't get so hung up on this one girl.
We guys always want the one we can't have...
and it's a problem. Stay on track improving
yourself, meeting other women, etc. That's the
way.
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