Is "Romance" Attractive To Women?

You've probably noticed that I don't talk about
the idea of "romance" very often.

There's a good reason for this.

I think that most guys use romance in
completely the wrong way, and in the process screw
up their chances with the woman that they are
interested in.

I'm going to take some time here to talk about
my personal perspective on romance, how it is
misused, and how to use it to really make a woman
feel attracted to you.

Most guys make one of two main mistakes when
trying to be "romantic":

1) They try to use romance to CREATE attraction.

2) They use TOO MUCH romance, thinking that more
must be better.

Let me ask you this... What does romance mean
to you?

I'm serious. Think about it for a minute.

Does romance mean gifts and flower?

Does it mean fancy dinners?

Does it mean candles and soft music?

To me, romance is about showing a softer side
of yourself... a more thoughtful side... in a way
that is meant to INCREASE the woman's attraction
for you.

Like I just mentioned, most guys either try to
use romance to CREATE attraction, or they do too
many things in an attempt to "be romantic", and
the effect is lost.

Here's a quiz:

In general, would a woman think you were more
romantic if you:

1) Brought her red roses every time you saw her.

2) Brought her one flower the fourth time you saw
her, but it was her favorite flower, in her
favorite color.

...???

Here's another one...

In general, would a woman think you were more
romantic if you:

1) Took her to a fancy dinner every time you saw
her.

2) Didn't take her to dinner, but one night cooked
her a favorite dish that your mom taught you and
told her the story of how it came to be a family
favorite?

Do you see where I'm going with these examples?

"Romance" is all about the context of the
situation. In other words, little things that are
thoughtful, used once in awhile will make FAR more
of an impact than trying to do everything you
possibly can all the time.

Have you ever seen a T. V. show or movie with a
girl holding a flower, pulling off each petal one
at a time and saying, "He loves me, he loves me
not"?

This is a famous cliche... even Madonna does it
in her old "Truth or Dare" movie.

What's going on here? And why is it now such a
famous idea that it is almost universally known?

Because it strikes a chord inside of women
everywhere! Every woman can relate to the idea of
thinking about a man and wondering if he's
thinking about her.

Pulling petals off of a flower and saying, "He
loves me, he loves me not", is just another way of
saying, "I can't stop thinking about this guy and
I'm going to keep thinking about him until I know
how he feels."

As you know, if you've read past newsletters
and/or my ebook, I think that it's important to
CREATE this kind of situation as much as humanly
possible.

Now, here's where romance fits into the
puzzle... If you're doing things that you consider
to be "romantic" all the time, then she has
nothing to wonder about... nothing to think
about... there is no challenge or mystery at all.

On the other hand, if you use romance more
carefully and keep her on the edge of her seat, so
to speak, then a small romantic gesture will cause
her to feel GREAT feelings of attraction inside...
and cause her to work even harder to get and keep
your attention - BECAUSE SHE'LL TRY HARDER TO GET
MORE OUT OF THIS ROMANTIC SIDE OF YOU!

So what are some things you can do, that women
see as romantic, without going overboard?

Well, if you want to do the typical things like
flowers, gifts, music, poetry, even Cadillac Catalytic Converter. then do as I
said earlier: Use them VERY infrequently. Tease
her, bust on her, treat her like a bratty little
sister most of the time, then out of nowhere do
something thoughtful. But make sure to stay cool
when the emotional reaction comes!

She's probably going to be very happy and want
to know "where that came from." Just tell her that
you were thinking about her and move on to the
next topic. Don't get all mushy, dude.

By the way, if you've gone out with a woman 47
times, and you don't know if she likes you, and
you're now thinking, "Oh, hey... great idea! I'll
buy her a flower and she'll feel attracted to
me..." then get a new idea.

Romance isn't a way to make a woman feel
attracted to you.

Romance is a way to AMPLIFY attraction that is
already happening.

Read that last part again... DON'T TRY TO MAKE
A WOMAN FEEL ATTRACTED TO YOU WITH ROMANCE!

Attraction is created by factors other than
gifts, dinners, flowers, etc.

If she's not feeling attracted to you, then
showing her that you're attracted to her probably
isn't going to change it... in fact, it may just
push her away.