What Women HATE Most About Single Guys...

For women, friendships and romantic relationships are two separate things. They are NOT the same.
One can lead to another, but it's RARE when it happens.Remember that. One CAN lead to another, but it's RARE."Romantic" relationships are very different from "friend" relationships.While most men would sleep with most of their female "friends" if the woman "came on" to them,most women would NOT sleep with most men that they consider "just friends".But why is this? How do women differentiate between "just friends" and "I'll be intimate with you"?And why is it so hard to become "more than friends" with a woman you've been "just friends" with for a long time?The answer to this riddle is very interesting to me.

I believe that the answer comes down to understanding HOW women "know" when they want to "be intimate" with a man... and, even MORE importantly, understanding how women "know" when they DON'T want to "be intimate" with a man...The thing that tells a woman whether the guy she's with is "friend" material or "lover" material is how she FEELS.It's a combination of EMOTIONAL feelings and PHYSICAL feelings.It is NOT logic.She might USE logic to "rationalize" her decision... or she might USE logic to SOUND like she has a good reason for either "being with" or "not being with" a particular guy. But don't let that distract you.Logic isn't important AT ALL in this context.So let me say this another way.A woman FEELS something emotionally and/or physically, then she uses those FEELINGS as the
basis for her "decisions" and actions with a particular guy.If she feels that "Ewwww Yuck!" feeling, then her "logical" conclusion will probably not be that she wants to date the guy in question. If she feels that "It's Gettin' Hot In Here" feeling, then her "logical" conclusion will probably be that this guy is interesting and attractive, and a good "choice" to date. At this point she'll take ACTION on her feelings and thoughts...It goes like this:

FEEL--->THINK--->ACT

First the FEELING, then the THOUGHT... and THEN the action.Now, with this in mind, let me ask you an
important question:How do most guys behave around women that
they're "romantically" interested in?And another:What do they do to get the woman that's the object of their desires to be with them? Take a few minutes to think about this. Make a list if you have paper and pen handy.I'm serious. I'll wait.Come back when you're finished.Now take a look at your list.I'll bet that almost every single thing on your list was something "external".In other words, your list probably contains things like "Take her to dinner" and "Give her compliments" and "Buy her flowers or Acura Vent Visor" and "Call her often".These are all things that demonstrate that he's INTERESTED.

They are NOT things that trigger those emotional and physical feelings inside of a woman
that tell her that THIS IS THE GUY.In other words, men try to use "props" to LET A
WOMAN KNOW HE'S INTERESTED......HOPING that when the woman sees these
displays she'll be interested in him.Almost NONE of the things men do to court women make women FEEL ANYTHING even remotely similar to "Attraction" and "Arousal".Of course, you know this.You've probably done this stuff about a bazillion times. I have, too. I know what it's like to try OVER AND OVER to let a particular woman know that I'm interested... only to have her NOT RESPOND in a "romantic" way.

The PROBLEM with this kind of thing is that it makes TWO HUGE MISTAKES at once. First, it's just the plain-old wrong way to go. Telling or showing a woman that you "like her" has
no effect on how she feels about YOU In the moment it sure seems to make sense..."If I show her how I feel, she'll return the feelings".Duh.Like I said, it seems like the right thing to do in the moment (when your inner little girl has a big fat crush). But it's not... it will have NO effect on her feelings for you.

And second, it communicates clearly that YOU DON'T GET IT. It tips a woman off INSTANTLY that you're not hip to what's going... and it kills your chances with her.Say what?You mean that doing nice things for women, and trying to show how you feel can actually HURT your chances with a woman?Yea, it can.
Look, if you've been dating a woman exclusively for six months, and her birthday comes... it's OK
to buy her a gift and tell her that you like spending time with her.YOU'RE ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP.

But if you've known a woman for six DAYS and you try this kind of thing, you're going to shoot yourself in the foot.Women are EXPERTS at recognizing men who DON'T GET IT. And if you DON'T get it, PLUS you're trying to compensate for the fact that you don't get it with gifts and compliments, then you're REALLY screwed (or not screwed, as the case may be).