Why You Should NOT Compliment A Woman

COMPLIMENTS OR NO COMPLIMENTS?

To compliment or not to compliment... that is
the question.

Women tell us they want us to compliment them.

Your mom told you to be nice to girls, right?

And we guys like to really "turn up" the
Compliments when we LIKE a woman...

But here's the question:

Do compliments create ATTRACTION when you first
meet a woman?

Most of the time the answer is NO.

I have a word for guys who like to give women
lots of compliments when they first meet her.

That word is WUUSSY.

Recently, I got an email from a woman about
this very topic that I thought would be the
perfect way to introduce this and explain WHY
compliments are not the way to build attraction...

I love that women are out there reading and
thinking about my material (especially the Cocky &
Funny comment). Good stuff.

I'm going to break down the things you're
talking about into a few specific topics, then
address them individually.

Here are the three that I'd like to address:

1) The idea that women LOVE to be complimented.

2) The idea that women spend all of their time and
energy getting ready and fixing themselves up
because they want compliments.

3) The difference between complimenting a
"special" girl and complimenting just ANY girl.

Here are a few things to keep in mind as you
read my commentary on this letter and these
different topics:

A) We humans (and I'm talking about women in
particular here) don't always REALIZE what we
REALLY want.

B) We humans don't like to admit what's REALLY
going on inside of us, because it can be
irrational and illogical.

C) It's very important to realize that there is a
CRITICAL difference between a girl you've just met
or have dated a few times and a SPECIAL girl in
your life.

So, let's talk about the topics individually...

THE IDEA THAT WOMEN LOVE TO BE COMPLIMENTED

Do women love to be complimented?

I think so.

In fact, I think that many really ATTRACTIVE
women FEED off of attention and compliments. The
more attention and compliments they get, the
better and more powerful they feel. It's an ego
boost.

BUT... and it's a BUTTTTT bigger than J-Lo's,
this doesn't mean that a woman will feel ATTRACTED
to you if you give her compliments.

Attractive women get compliments in various
forms all the time. In fact, they're so used to
getting compliments, that's what they EXPECT.

As a matter of fact, if you start talking to an
attractive woman and say, "Wow, you're really
beautiful. I mean, you're like a goddess... are
you a model or an actress?" etc., the most LIKELY
response you're going to get is her giving you the
cold shoulder.

Why?

Because SHE GOT WHAT SHE NEEDED FROM YOU and
you showed her that you're JUST LIKE EVERY OTHER
guy out there that will worship her for her
physical beauty.

As a general rule, you ALWAYS want to avoid
being mentally slotted into the "average" and
"like all the other guys" category at ALL COST.

I have started conversations by giving a woman
a compliment, but I NEVER let it become part of
the actual conversation. If anything, I begin
teasing and making fun of her looks as soon as
possible, if she's REALLY hot-looking like a
Buick Catalytic Converter. And I never
give the compliment in a way that says, "I'm
intimidated because you're obviously very powerful
and desirable."