Why "Cocky & Funny" Attracts Women

WHY THE COCKY & FUNNY ATTITUDE IS ATTRACTIVE TO
WOMEN... AND HOW TO USE IT

I get a lot of email from guys who don't quite
get the Cocky & Funny attitude.

It just doesn't make sense to some guys that
teasing women, busting their balls, being slightly
arrogant, not kissing up to them, etc. could or
should make them feel attraction.

I can understand this because I was exactly the
same way the first few times I heard it and saw it
being used.

I kept thinking to myself, "If I do this cocky
and funny thing, I'm only going to come across as
arrogant... and that can't make women like me
more."

Well, was I wrong.

You must always remember that ATTRACTION isn't
logical. It doesn't follow the rules that it
"should" follow. ATTRACTION is a very powerful
emotion that has reasons and triggers that don't
make any sense at first glance...

I'm sure you've seen many attractive women with
guys who mistreat them, abuse them, and were
exactly the opposite of what you'd expect a woman
to accept.

Why?

ATTRACTION. In the beginning she felt
attraction, and as bad as it may sound, almost no
amount of being "bad", abusive, or jerk-ish can
convince a woman, feeling a strong attraction to a
guy, to leave.

So let me take the opportunity to talk a bit
about the Cocky & Funny attitude, why it works,
and how to use it to attract women (without having
to be an abusive jerk).

First of all, you have to remember that the
formula is Cocky PLUS Funny. Always both.

If you act too cocky, you'll only come off as
arrogant and insecure.

If you're just funny, always telling jokes, and
making people laugh, you will probably come across
as "too goofy."

But if you use BOTH together, you will create
magic. Cocky + Funny is like sparring... it's
sport... it's fun... it's challenging... it's
interesting when used with skill.

So let's get clear about what "Cocky + Funny"
is.

Here's a cocky statement:

"Her dress makes her look fat."

Here's a Cocky + Funny statement:

"If she doesn't find a dress that fits better, the
fashion police are going to send Acura Cl Oxygen Sensor in the SWAT team
for her ass."

Get it?

Start with arrogance, then add humor.

So why does it work to attract women?

Where To Take Women On Dates

It's always interesting to me to get a view of
how another person sees the world...

Your questions have given me some insight into
the way you THINK, and I believe that I'm going to
be able to give you some great ideas.

You said that you've found that "playing up a
woman's insecurities" in a tactful, Cocky & Funny
way, is really working for you.

Now, this might sound a little bit "cruel and
unusual" to others reading your comments... and
I'd like to explain the psychology behind it, and
tell you why I think it works so well for you.

There are a few keys that one needs to remember
when interacting with an attractive woman you've
just met...

1) Most guys pursue her, give her compliments, try
to get her approval by giving her things like
Acura Cl Oil Filter and taking her out.

2) Most men don't say things that might "rock the
boat". In other words, most men won't make a
comment early on that might offend or upset her.

3) Most men give away all of their power to
attractive women INSTANTLY. I'm talking as soon
as they meet.

4) Women interpret these behaviors as a man not
feeling comfortable enough and secure enough IN
himself to BE himself. In other words, these
"commonly accepted courting behaviors" actually
come across as subtly MANIPULATIVE to women. At a
subconscious level, a woman can INSTANTLY sense a
man who is communicating the message "I don't
think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to
do a bunch of other things for you in the hopes
that you'll give me approval". I know, the truth
sometimes sucks.

Killer Strategies With Women In Bars & Clubs

There is one place where you will ALWAYS find
attractive women...

And that one place is BARS and CLUBS.

As you already know, bars and clubs are
JAM PACKED with attractive, single women...

But there's just one problem: These women are
usually MOBBED by guys with Acura Cl Nerf Bars.

Drunk guys. Stupid guys. Attractive guys.
And YOU.

Bars and nightclubs can be the most
CHALLENGING places to meet women... IF you don't
know what you're doing...

But... if you DO know what you're doing, these
places can be a GOLD MINE.

How Do I know? Because I've spent more time
than I'd like to admit meeting women in these
places.

And if YOU would like to learn how to master
meeting women in the "Bar & Club Environment",
then I highly recommend that you check out the
fast-track training program I've created called
"Meeting Women In Bars & Clubs".

Why You SHOULDN'T Tell A Woman You're "Interested"

If you do certain things and communicate in a
certain way, you will trigger ATTRACTION in a
woman.

If you trigger ATTRACTION, you will be far more
likely to be in control of the situation (and
you're more likely to be successful with women in
general).

Now, just like you can trigger that amazing
emotion called ATTRACTION with your communication
and body language, you can also trigger OTHER
emotions as well.

And one of these emotions, for lack of a better
term, is called LOVE.

Now, I don't want to get into a philosophical
discussion of what "love is", and how long it
takes to feel "true love" for another person...

But I will say that the "beginnings" of love
can be observed and described.

Have you seen any episodes of the bizarre T.V.
show "The Acura Cl Multi Rib Belt"?

You'll notice that several of the women have
said things like "I am starting to have feelings
for him"?

When they say this, they're talking about
something OTHER than just ATTRACTION.

In a nutshell, I'll just say that if you ACT
like a guy that wants a woman to LOVE you, then it
will often HAPPEN.

This includes:

- Calling and seeing a woman too often

- Acting like a "boyfriend"

- "Courting" a woman actively

If you don't want a woman to get those
"feelings", then don't call or see her more than
once or twice a week.

Don't act like her boyfriend.

And don't "COURT" HER!

There's nothing wrong with going out with a
woman a few times, then not wanting to see her
again.

The problems come when you ACT like you want
something MORE from a woman, and then she starts
to see you in a different way and have FEELINGS
for you.

There's something called an "implied social
contract".

This is when you do something in a way that
"implies" something.

If you do things that imply that you want to be
her boyfriend or husband (like calling and seeing
her all the time, paying tons of attention to her,
courting her, etc.) then you are IMPLYING that you
want her to have feelings for her. And she will.

Solve this problem before it happens. Don't
imply.

How To Use Flirting To Make Her Want You

Here's an example of some of one of my favorite
topics to "riff on" when flirting... the topic of
getting married and us being in a relationship...
and I'll give it to you in the form of a sample
dialogue. Keep in mind, I might have a
conversation like this one with a woman that I
just met five minutes earlier...

Her: "I have a good job, and I make good money"

Me: "Nice. I like that in a woman. Want to get
married? We could leave for Vegas right now and be
married in about 4 or 5 hours. I need a woman with
money."

Her: [Laughter] "OK, that sounds like a plan"

Me: "But wait a minute... do you think you can
support the both of us on your income? I really
want to be a stay at home husband... you know,
keep an eye on the TV and such as Acura Cl Mud Flaps."

Her: "Oh, no... I won't support you."

Me: "Well, then I'm breaking up with you. It's
over between us. I was going to marry you, then
divorce you a week later and take half your
money."

Her: [Laughter] "You can't break up with me! I'm
not even your girlfriend."

Me: "That's all the more reason."

...do you get what's going on here?

I'm taking a normal conversation topic (her job
and income) and redirecting the conversation in a
flirtatious, Cocky & Funny way to create a fun
mood and sexual tension (by suggesting marriage,
divorce, and breaking up over her not supporting
me, etc.).

If the above example doesn't make any sense to
you, then take that as a sign that you need to get
out and practice more. Try it on a waitress or
two.

When you ask for something and she says, "I'm
sorry, we don't have that", just say, "OK, this
relationship isn't working out... I'm going to
have to break up with you."

In fact, you can say this in just about ANY
situation with ANY woman where she's saying
something that you don't like, and it's funny.

When you communicate like this, you're
FLIRTING, you're TEASING, and you're initiating a
DIFFERENT KIND OF COMMUNICATION than what most men
initiate.

And as soon as the woman you're talking to
"engages" you in this kind of dialogue, THE GAME
IS ON.

There are a LOT of ways you can flirt, and a
lot of ways you can be Cocky & Funny that DON'T
REQUIRE WORDS.

If a woman looks at you and raises one eyebrow,
look back at her and do the same... only
exaggerate it.

If a woman puts her hand on your arm, look down
at it, then look up at her in a surprised way,
then raise your eyebrows as if you just had a
major "ah ha!" realization... then start smiling
and nodding your head as if you just realized that
she wants you. This is a powerful combination
because it's funny, and it exaggerates the meaning
in her touching you.

There are a MILLION ways to flirt like this,
but the point that I'm trying to make is that you
NEED TO START DOING IT RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING OF
YOUR INTERACTIONS WITH WOMEN.

5 "Wussy Signals" Women Notice Instantly

It's interesting not because of the content of
the actual question... but, more because of what
it SAYS about you and what you're thinking.

When you say, "Can you tell me how to ask a
woman if she has kids before a first date?" it
implies that you think that there's something
wrong with just coming out and asking it.

It's like you're saying, "Well, I know that I
can't just ASK her if she has kids... so can you
tell me some cool trick to get her to spill it
without me having to ask?".

Well guess what?

THIS IS A PROBLEM.

It's not necessary to use trickery when you
want to know something about a woman.

If you want to know if a woman has kids, then
you need to ASK.

Say "Hey, do you have any kids?".

If she says, "Yes", then say, "Great. I'm
really looking for a woman who doesn't have any
kids, but we can be friends".

Let's use a different example.

Let's say you've placed a personal ad online
for Acura Cl Mirror.

Let's say that a cute woman replies.

Let's say that she sends you a picture... but
it only shows her face... and you're only
interested in women who are slim.

Now, you probably would write to me and ask me
to give you some slick way to get her to share how
much she weighs with you without having to ask.

Wrong idea.

Just email her and say, "Hey, how tall are you
and how much do you weigh? I really prefer women
who are slim. Let me know...".

That's it.

Think about it.

If she IS slim, she'll tell you, and probably
be glad that you were up front with her and
direct.

If she ISN'T slim, she'll be glad you told her
now and didn't waste her time.

I think that your problem is probably rooted in
insecurity, and caring too much what other people
think of you.

...by the way... it's NOT OK to say, "Hey, I
really HATE FAT CHICKS... so tell me now, because
if you're fat I'm going to bail...".

That's not cool.

If you act like an adult and expect others to
act like adults, you'll do well with women.

If you pussy-foot around the issue (a perfect
term for you and this) you'll wind up trying to do
things that waste everyone's time.

If you're up front, direct, and not caring what
other people think of you, then you're going to
make women respond more powerfully.

How To Act On The First Date

"How should I act on the first date?"

I get a lot of specific questions that are
basically variations of this... things like:

"What should we talk about?" and "How do you
keep the conversation interesting?"

So instead of answering one specific question,
I'm going to lump them all together... and I'm
going to just address them all in this Q&A Dating
Tip.

Here goes...


THE FIRST DATE ISN'T AN INTERVIEW

The first thing to remember when you're meeting
up with a girl for "a date" is that it's NOT an
INTERVIEW.

You're not applying for a job (and neither is
she), so don't act like it.

It's so funny to me when I sit down in a
restaurant and I hear a couple that's obviously
out on their first date... and the guy has no idea
what to do.

It sounds like this:

"So, did you grow up around here?"

"Where did you go to school?"

"Do you have brothers and sisters?"

"What kinds of things do you like to do for fun?"

Painful.

Why is it that people tend to act like they're
on job interviews when they go out on dates?

It's just such the NOT-right thing to do.

I mean, no wonder women sit around with each
other and complain about how hard it is to find an
interesting guy in this world.

Here's a good rule of thumb:

ONLY ASK QUESTIONS OR TALK ABOUT COMMON,
BORING, PREDICTABLE TOPICS LIKE SCHOOL, WORK AND
FAMILY IF YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY RUN OUT OF ALL OTHER
OPTIONS... AND YOU REALLY ENJOY THAT CURIOUS DRY
FEELING RIGHT WHERE YOUR LEGS MEET.

And why is this?

Good question. And I'm glad you asked.

First, let's talk about WHY most guys allow the
conversation to turn to these ultra-boring
topics...

Most guys approach a first date from the
perspective of "I don't want to screw this up".

In other words, they try to play it safe and
not do anything or say anything that the girl
might not like.

They try to present themselves as "nice guys"
who love mom, have a good job, and are stable.

Somehow, guys have gotten the idea that if they
act nice, buy dinner, and talk about the same old
things that everyone else uses to bore women to
tears that they might get lucky and score (or at
least get a kiss and a second opportunity to buy
dinner).

I don't know where this concept came from, but
it's just not a very effective approach.

WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO THE SAME OLD SAME
OLD, BORING, PREDICTABLE CONVERSATION.

Attraction happens when there is energy, spice,
humor, mystery... COCKY AND FUNNY... and special
sauce.

So, if you want to create ATTRACTION instead of
BOREDOM, you're going to have to learn a new way.

You're going to have to learn to talk about
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Avoid THESE Mistakes With Women

Dear Master Pogi,

Dude,i must say your a genius. I just
graduated from high school, when i was in school i
was always shy around girls an didn't know what to
say, you've helped me open up my eyes to what i
should of been doing a long time ago. Now I've got
2 girls that both want me , an i really dont know
how to handle that. Any suggestions????? None of
my friends are giving me any good answers. Im
sure u have some. Help me out if u get a chance, u
dont gotta publish it in your emails u send to
everyone . I just really wanna know what to do, i
dont want to fu** this up. Any help would be
greatly appreciated.

Jayson Cage of NY.

OK, well it doesn't sound like too much of a
problem to me.

You have two girls that like you, what's the
issue?!

You're going to have to decide if you'd like:

1) A relationship with one of them.

2) To be single and date both of them.

If you want a relationship, then pick the one
you like as you choose an Acura Cl Ignition Wire Set
and go out with her more than once a
week.

If you DON'T want a relationship right now,
then don't see EITHER of them more than about once
a week (twice once in awhile is OK, but any more
than that and a woman will start to go into
relationship mode AUTOMATICALLY).

There is no problem with more than one woman
liking you, the problem comes if you start being
dishonest and not-up-front in your dealings with
them.
These are great problems to have, really... as
long as you don't screw it up by being a jackass.

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If you're interested in learning how to
approach women, get phone numbers, get dates,
and then smoothly take things to a "physical"
level without rejection, then take a minute
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help you.
Understanding why you need to leave at this
point is part of understanding the dynamic called
ATTRACTION.

So before I get into the specifics, let's talk
about the underlying process that creates
ATTRACTION...

1) ATTRACTION isn't a choice. It's an emotional
reaction.

ATTRACTION is nature's way of taking over our
minds and bodies long enough to make sure that we
mate with someone with the best possible genes
like Acura Cl Ignition Switch.

I realize that this sounds pretty "clinical"
and lame, but it's the damn truth.

Attraction isn't concerned with you, her, or
love. It's evolved over a loooong period of time,
and it has a purpose that is very important.

2) ATTRACTION isn't logical, in the sense that it
isn't created by things that "should" create it.

Buying women dinner and gifts, giving lots of
compliments when you first meet a woman, and
kissing up to women to get their approval are
examples of "logical" things that SHOULD create
attraction... but don't.

When you understand how attraction works, you
begin to see that it has a "logic" all its own.

Attraction is one of my favorite subjects...
and I think you should understand it if you want
to be successful with women.
3) Women aren't attracted to guys who act like
needy Wuss-Bags. When guys give lots of
compliments, seek approval, act clingy, or try to
go out of their way to be overly "nice", it
usually backfires.

Women run from Wussy men (either that or they
go shoe shopping with them... and the guy usually
pays).

4) Unfortunately, many guys are mentally
programmed to a sort of "Default Wussy" mode of
behavior when they encounter a woman that they're
attracted to.

When you combine this Default Wuss mode with
nervous body language, you create an almost
impossible barrier between you and ever creating
ATTRACTION.

5) Just like a painting or a song, too much can
ruin an interaction with a woman.

You must know when to leave, hang up, or end
the interaction.

Leaving at the right moment creates tension,
anticipation and mystery.

How To Get Past A Woman's "Defenses"

A few hours ago I was standing in a "posh" bar
in San Francisco.

I was standing near to the bar, looking around
at the people, when the guy next to me starts
talking to a girl that he doesn't know.

She turned and looked at him with a look that
said "I don't know you, I don't want to talk to
you, and you have no chance with me".

The look on her face couldn't have been more
clear. As soon as he started talking to her, she
put up her defenses.

The more he tried to talk to her, the more
annoyed she got.

It was painful to watch.

Then things got REALLY interesting.

The guy turned to me and started making
conversation with me.

He asked me how I was "doing" with the ladies
at the bar.

I told him that I had just arrived
after i stepped on the Acura Cl Ignition Coil, and I
wasn't particularly in the mood to talk to women
at the moment... I was just enjoying my drink and
relaxing.

He then started to talk about how "meeting
women was a numbers game" and how he had been
"laying rap" on women all night... but he didn't
have any "luck" so far.

We started discussing our different approaches
to meeting women.

I told him that when I decide to talk to a
woman that I really find attractive, I am
confident that I'll be successful with her.

He kind of laughed and told me that meeting
women was a game of luck, and if you wanted to
win, you had to just keep playing the numbers...
and hope you find one that likes you.

Right at that moment, two cute women walked up
to the bar. One of them was very hot. He
looked at the hotter girl, pointed to her, and
said "I like that".

I said "Well then go talk to her".

He decided to go "order a drink" (in other
words, he was going to go up to the bar and FAKE
like he was there to order a drink, and then
"accidentally" start a conversation with her).

Of course, he already HAD a drink, so he
fumbled around trying to find a place to put it
down so he could walk up to the bar with no drink
and not look like he was "on the make".

It was pretty damn funny.

Anyway, he squeezes in next to this girl, and
tries to act like he's just there to get a drink.
He then turns to her, and tries to start a
conversation.

What happened? Of course...

Her defenses went up INSTANTLY.

She said a few words to him, but then turned
away from him, took her drink and her friend, and
walked away from the bar.

He came back over to me and made no comment
about the interaction with her...

I watched him try to talk to more women after
that... all with the same result.

Their defenses went up AS SOON as he started
talking to them.

This guy's theory of "talking to a lot of women
until you get lucky and find one who likes you"
was working pretty well...

Except for the fact that he WASN'T getting
"lucky" at all, and NO women liked him....

3 "Major Mistakes" To Avoid On A Date

Here are the three mistakes that I noticed
right off the bat:

1) Making out with her somewhere other than at
your house (or her house).

2) Apologizing for making out with her.

3) Asking her if you should call her, of if she
should call you.

I'll address each one in a minute in detail,
but first let me start off with some of my Quack
theories.

One of the things I say a lot is "Women Aren't
Attracted To Wussies".

I say this because:

1) It's true.

2) If you don't understand this principle, you're
likely to make mistakes that clearly "telegraph"
to a woman that you're a Wuss.

3) When it all comes down, if a woman doesn't feel
ATTRACTION for you, or you somehow manage to screw
up and KILL the ATTRACTION she's feeling... you're
done. Game over.

I think that most of us guys have these little
secret beliefs that we hide from the rest of the
world... and that we TRY to hide from women.

I was having an interesting discussion with a
good friend today, and we were talking about how
most guys act when they're around an "attractive"
woman.

Most guys do one of the following:

- Give attractive women a lot of compliments
immediately.

- Kiss up to attractive women.

- Try to get attractive women to like them by
buying them gifts, dinners and flowers or Dodge Catalytic Converter.

- Chase after attractive women and let it be known
that the woman is "a prize worth pursuing" right
from the beginning.

- Hand over all of their power and status to
attractive women.

Know what I'm talking about?

Have you ever seen a guy at dinner with a
beautiful woman... and he's obviously nervous
about the whole situation... and you can tell that
he's doing everything he can to NOT screw up so he
can get the woman's approval?

Have you ever BEEN THAT GUY?

Yeah, me too. A lot.

Well, unfortunately, this kind of behavior
usually BACKFIRES BIG TIME.

All of the little things that most guys do to
get a woman's approval send a clear message to the
woman that:

"I'M A WUSSY. I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT YOU WOULD LIKE
ME FOR WHO I AM, SO I FEEL LIKE I NEED TO RESORT
TO EXTREME MEASURES TO GET YOU TO PAY ATTENTION TO
ME."

Now that I understand this particular aspect of
male/female interactions, I can see the horrible
results all around me.

At bars I watch guys walking up to women and
giving compliments... or offering to buy drinks...
and the women smiling politely thinking, "Oh,
another loser", and excusing themselves...

Quick Note: bars aren't bad places to meet women.
But you must know HOW to meet women in bars if you
want to succeed in this kind of environment. For
the best training in how to meet women in bars and
clubs.

What Annoys Women, AND What Attracts Them

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If you listen to women talk about men, you'll
often hear them use the word "ANNOYING" to
describe certain men and certain things that some
men DO.

Now, as you can probably guess, it's not
usually a good thing when a woman uses this
particular word to describe a guy...

And, as you can ALSO probably guess, when a
woman uses this particular word, it's not usually
about guys who she is ATTRACTED to (although this
isn't always true).

Now, it's taken me a few years of paying
attention to really get a handle on what women are
talking about when they say, "He's annoying" or
"It's so annoying when he does that".

And guess what I realized was at the ROOT of
women finding a guy or his behavior annoying?

IT'S ALMOST ALWAYS WUSSY BEHAVIOR!

AHHHH!

THINGS THAT ANNOY WOMEN...

Here are some of the things that many women
consider to be "annoying":

- Calling her too often

- Telling her that you have "feelings" for her too
early

- Giving away your power to her and making her the
boss

- Always asking a woman what she wants instead of
leading

- Acting submissive and weak

- Accepting her demands, bossy-ness, and
manipulative requests

- Being her doormat and putting your own needs like
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"WHAT?" you say.

"HOW COULD THIS BE?"... you might be thinking.

How is it possible that demonstrating your
affection for a woman by calling her, telling her
how you feel, letting her make the decisions, and
putting her first could be considered ANNOYING, of
all things?

Well guess what?

IT IS.

Women, and ESPECIALLY the most ATTRACTIVE and
desirable women, usually consider the above things
to be VERY annoying.

Of course, the reason for this is because no
matter how good these kinds of behaviors seem on
the surface, there's only one conclusion that can
be drawn from them:

THE MAN DOING THEM IS A BONAFIDE, 100%
CERTIFIABLE WUSSY!

AND WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO WUSSIES.

NEVER.

Now, do I really, really, REALLY mean that
women are NEVER, EVER attracted to Wussies?

I mean, isn't that an over-generalization?

Nothing is always true, right?

Well, this one IS.

Actually, what I MEAN is...

As far as generalizations go, this particular
one is as close to being true all the time as they
get.

And just in case I haven't said this enough,
let me say it one more time... just to make sure
it's clear:

WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO WUSSIES.

So now you understand why all of the "nice"
things that you've done for women seem to always
result in the woman pulling away.

It's because she finds your nice-guy "Wuss"
behaviors to be ANNOYING.

AND IT KEEPS GETTING WORSE...

To further confuse things, you'll often hear a
woman say something to the effect of...

"I want a STRONG guy who is also SENSITIVE..."

...or...

"He needs to have his own life, his own
interests, and his own friends, but also be
totally focused on me..."

I see things like this in women's personal ads
all the time. I'm sure you've seen things like
this yourself.

Women often talk about wanting a combination of
things in a man that just don't seem to fit...

So what's going on here?

Are women crazy? (Yes.)

But seriously, what are they talking about?

How is it that women seem to always talk about
wanting men who have these qualities that don't
fit together?

I know that I personally used to hear this
stuff and then say to myself "OK, well I've got
the sensitive part covered so I guess I need to
start acting a little bit stronger."

I thought that maybe this came down to getting
my lazy ass to the gym and working out. You know,
to become "stronger".

No, I'm serious.

Well, here's the BIG REALIZATION that I had...

I've now realized that I had it all wrong.

Instead of thinking to myself that I was a
nice, sensitive guy that needed to become a little
stronger, what I really needed was to become a
strong guy who could also act sensitive on
occasion.

The difference seems almost like word-play, but
it's not. Not at all.

You see, when a woman says that she wants a
"strong guy who's also sensitive", that's what she
MEANS.

She wants a guy who's STRONG. The sensitive
part is far more "optional" than the STRONG part.

This is why women often date jerks and guys who
are emotionally unavailable, and don't date us
"nice guys" who would do anything for them.

Remember, ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE.

Women do not sit down and make a list of the
qualities that a particular guy has, then think it
over it for a few days, then DECIDE whether or not
to FEEL ATTRACTION.

NO WAY.

It happens in an INSTANT, and it happens for
all kinds of "illogical" reasons... reasons that
even the woman who is feeling it can't usually
describe.

Why You Should NOT Compliment A Woman

COMPLIMENTS OR NO COMPLIMENTS?

To compliment or not to compliment... that is
the question.

Women tell us they want us to compliment them.

Your mom told you to be nice to girls, right?

And we guys like to really "turn up" the
Compliments when we LIKE a woman...

But here's the question:

Do compliments create ATTRACTION when you first
meet a woman?

Most of the time the answer is NO.

I have a word for guys who like to give women
lots of compliments when they first meet her.

That word is WUUSSY.

Recently, I got an email from a woman about
this very topic that I thought would be the
perfect way to introduce this and explain WHY
compliments are not the way to build attraction...

I love that women are out there reading and
thinking about my material (especially the Cocky &
Funny comment). Good stuff.

I'm going to break down the things you're
talking about into a few specific topics, then
address them individually.

Here are the three that I'd like to address:

1) The idea that women LOVE to be complimented.

2) The idea that women spend all of their time and
energy getting ready and fixing themselves up
because they want compliments.

3) The difference between complimenting a
"special" girl and complimenting just ANY girl.

Here are a few things to keep in mind as you
read my commentary on this letter and these
different topics:

A) We humans (and I'm talking about women in
particular here) don't always REALIZE what we
REALLY want.

B) We humans don't like to admit what's REALLY
going on inside of us, because it can be
irrational and illogical.

C) It's very important to realize that there is a
CRITICAL difference between a girl you've just met
or have dated a few times and a SPECIAL girl in
your life.

So, let's talk about the topics individually...

THE IDEA THAT WOMEN LOVE TO BE COMPLIMENTED

Do women love to be complimented?

I think so.

In fact, I think that many really ATTRACTIVE
women FEED off of attention and compliments. The
more attention and compliments they get, the
better and more powerful they feel. It's an ego
boost.

BUT... and it's a BUTTTTT bigger than J-Lo's,
this doesn't mean that a woman will feel ATTRACTED
to you if you give her compliments.

Attractive women get compliments in various
forms all the time. In fact, they're so used to
getting compliments, that's what they EXPECT.

As a matter of fact, if you start talking to an
attractive woman and say, "Wow, you're really
beautiful. I mean, you're like a goddess... are
you a model or an actress?" etc., the most LIKELY
response you're going to get is her giving you the
cold shoulder.

Why?

Because SHE GOT WHAT SHE NEEDED FROM YOU and
you showed her that you're JUST LIKE EVERY OTHER
guy out there that will worship her for her
physical beauty.

As a general rule, you ALWAYS want to avoid
being mentally slotted into the "average" and
"like all the other guys" category at ALL COST.

I have started conversations by giving a woman
a compliment, but I NEVER let it become part of
the actual conversation. If anything, I begin
teasing and making fun of her looks as soon as
possible, if she's REALLY hot-looking like a
Buick Catalytic Converter. And I never
give the compliment in a way that says, "I'm
intimidated because you're obviously very powerful
and desirable."

Is "Romance" Attractive To Women?

You've probably noticed that I don't talk about
the idea of "romance" very often.

There's a good reason for this.

I think that most guys use romance in
completely the wrong way, and in the process screw
up their chances with the woman that they are
interested in.

I'm going to take some time here to talk about
my personal perspective on romance, how it is
misused, and how to use it to really make a woman
feel attracted to you.

Most guys make one of two main mistakes when
trying to be "romantic":

1) They try to use romance to CREATE attraction.

2) They use TOO MUCH romance, thinking that more
must be better.

Let me ask you this... What does romance mean
to you?

I'm serious. Think about it for a minute.

Does romance mean gifts and flower?

Does it mean fancy dinners?

Does it mean candles and soft music?

To me, romance is about showing a softer side
of yourself... a more thoughtful side... in a way
that is meant to INCREASE the woman's attraction
for you.

Like I just mentioned, most guys either try to
use romance to CREATE attraction, or they do too
many things in an attempt to "be romantic", and
the effect is lost.

Here's a quiz:

In general, would a woman think you were more
romantic if you:

1) Brought her red roses every time you saw her.

2) Brought her one flower the fourth time you saw
her, but it was her favorite flower, in her
favorite color.

...???

Here's another one...

In general, would a woman think you were more
romantic if you:

1) Took her to a fancy dinner every time you saw
her.

2) Didn't take her to dinner, but one night cooked
her a favorite dish that your mom taught you and
told her the story of how it came to be a family
favorite?

Do you see where I'm going with these examples?

"Romance" is all about the context of the
situation. In other words, little things that are
thoughtful, used once in awhile will make FAR more
of an impact than trying to do everything you
possibly can all the time.

Have you ever seen a T. V. show or movie with a
girl holding a flower, pulling off each petal one
at a time and saying, "He loves me, he loves me
not"?

This is a famous cliche... even Madonna does it
in her old "Truth or Dare" movie.

What's going on here? And why is it now such a
famous idea that it is almost universally known?

Because it strikes a chord inside of women
everywhere! Every woman can relate to the idea of
thinking about a man and wondering if he's
thinking about her.

Pulling petals off of a flower and saying, "He
loves me, he loves me not", is just another way of
saying, "I can't stop thinking about this guy and
I'm going to keep thinking about him until I know
how he feels."

As you know, if you've read past newsletters
and/or my ebook, I think that it's important to
CREATE this kind of situation as much as humanly
possible.

Now, here's where romance fits into the
puzzle... If you're doing things that you consider
to be "romantic" all the time, then she has
nothing to wonder about... nothing to think
about... there is no challenge or mystery at all.

On the other hand, if you use romance more
carefully and keep her on the edge of her seat, so
to speak, then a small romantic gesture will cause
her to feel GREAT feelings of attraction inside...
and cause her to work even harder to get and keep
your attention - BECAUSE SHE'LL TRY HARDER TO GET
MORE OUT OF THIS ROMANTIC SIDE OF YOU!

So what are some things you can do, that women
see as romantic, without going overboard?

Well, if you want to do the typical things like
flowers, gifts, music, poetry, even Cadillac Catalytic Converter. then do as I
said earlier: Use them VERY infrequently. Tease
her, bust on her, treat her like a bratty little
sister most of the time, then out of nowhere do
something thoughtful. But make sure to stay cool
when the emotional reaction comes!

She's probably going to be very happy and want
to know "where that came from." Just tell her that
you were thinking about her and move on to the
next topic. Don't get all mushy, dude.

By the way, if you've gone out with a woman 47
times, and you don't know if she likes you, and
you're now thinking, "Oh, hey... great idea! I'll
buy her a flower and she'll feel attracted to
me..." then get a new idea.

Romance isn't a way to make a woman feel
attracted to you.

Romance is a way to AMPLIFY attraction that is
already happening.

Read that last part again... DON'T TRY TO MAKE
A WOMAN FEEL ATTRACTED TO YOU WITH ROMANCE!

Attraction is created by factors other than
gifts, dinners, flowers, etc.

If she's not feeling attracted to you, then
showing her that you're attracted to her probably
isn't going to change it... in fact, it may just
push her away.

Key Words Women Say When Attracted

I wish I would have written what you're about
to read, but I didn't (but I'm still a cool guy
because I wrote what came before and after it).

Check this out...

***Conversation Technique***

Dave,

I'm still having great success with a rekindled
marriage using you're Tips on my wife. Thanks a
million. Listen, I keep reading over and over in
the MailBags guys wanting to know how to start,
then keep a conversation going with women. I work
for a major oil company and have been through many
of there training courses on dealing with people.
One particularly interesting course was on
"Information Seeking". For this we first practiced
picking up on "Key words or phrases" the subject
said. For instance, I'll try and give an example
using c&f even though you wouldn't use this
professionally on the job. Lets say you see this
great looking chick on the street and you tell
her, "That's an unusual looking dress you're
wearing. Was that made out of a shower curtain?"
She says, "Your mean! No, I bought this from the
Old Navy store." Key Words: Old Navy. "Oh, so
you're in the Navy, huh?" "No silly. You know, the
big store over at the Mall." Key word: Mall. "Oh,
so you like going to the Mall and buying strange
looking dresses do you? Do your girlfriends buy
them also?" "My girlfriends are neat dressers and
my dress is very popular I'll have you know!" Key
phrases: "girlfriends are neat dressers" and
"dress is popular". "Well, if your girlfriends are
neat dressers in a popular dress like you're
wearing then I'm going into the shower curtain
clothing business..." I know, this is a lame
example but the lessons are this.

1) You start a conversation with however you want
then pick out key words or phrases from what the
person says.

2) You repeat them in what you say then listen for
new key words in there next response.

3) You add a little something new into the
conversation REPEATING there words you're using as
Key words or phrases. This tells them you're
listening, even though you're turning things
around to be c/f in this situation.

Once we learned to keep someone talking for 5
minutes, then 15 minutes the company actually
hired total strangers from a job soliciting
company to come and be our subjects. While being
videotaped we had to get the person talking and
keep them talking for 30 minutes. One important
note: If a person brings up something personal or
whatever, they wouldn't have mentioned it if they
didn't want to talk about it. These are great to
Key in on. My subject mentioned she was going
through a divorce and her ex-husband was a total
jerk. I keyed in on this and it's amazing what a
total stranger will tell you once you build a
little rapport. When watching the video you pick
up on mistakes or you see something different you
could have said. You also pick up on Key words and
phases you missed. It just takes a little
practice. This is just one example of how you can
start a conversation and keep it going. Hopefully
it can be of help to you're readers.

JTM Texas

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Awesome.

This is an EXCELLENT description of how to keep
a conversation going, keep it interesting and
unpredictable, and talk about ANYTHING and have it
be fun.

Read it again.

Now, let me sprinkle a little magic dust on
this and tell you how I use this technique
personally.

When I'm having a conversation with a woman,
I'm not just listening for ANY key word... I'm
listening for a particular KIND of key word (or
words).

I'm always on the alert for any words or
phrases that can be twisted, turned around,
misinterpreted, and misconstrued (is that a word?)
in one of a few particular ways...

Namely, in a way that says she's stupid, ditzy,
sexually crazed, or acting suspicious.

For instance, in your example above, you
suggested the following:

"That's an unusual looking dress you're wearing.
Was that made out of a shower curtain?" She says,
"You're mean! No, I bought this from the Old Navy
store." Key Words: Old Navy. "Oh, so you're in the
Navy, huh?" "No silly. You know, the big store
over at the Mall." Key word: Mall. "Oh, so you
like going to the Mall and buying strange looking
dresses do you? Do your girlfriends buy them
also?" "My girlfriends are neat dressers and my
dress is very popular I'll have you know!" Key
phrases: "girlfriends are neat dressers" and
"dress is popular". "Well, if your girlfriends are
neat dressers in a popular dress like you're
wearing then I'm going into the shower curtain
clothing business..."

Good. Nice one.

Now, let's dial it up a little bit...

She says, "No, I bought this from the Old Navy
store..."

Instead of just keying into "Navy" and saying,
"Oh, so you're in the navy, huh?", why not take it
to the next step and actually MAKE FUN of her.

"Oh, so is this what guys used to wear in the
Navy a long time ago... in the OLD Navy?"

Now you're BUSTING on her as well, AND it's
funny.

She says, "No silly. you know, the big store
over at the Mall."

You might try, "What kind of MALL are YOU
shopping at? And do your girlfriends buy dresses
like that one too?"

Again, you're hinting that she has funky taste
and she shops in weird places.

She says, "My girlfriends are neat dressers and
my dress is very popular I'll have you know!"

You could go with, "Oh, you have girlfriends?
You have more than one? Do they all know that you
think of them as a girlfriend? Or is one of them
the special one? By the way, if you have cute
girlfriends, then I think you and I are going to
get along VERY well."

...are you with me here?

What I'm doing is NOT ONLY looking for key
words to latch onto, but I'm ALSO looking for ways
to spin them to make fun, tease, and subtly
suggest various kinds of "racy" topics like BMW Catalytic Converter.

When done in a funny way, it's magic.

Body Language That Turns Women OFF

Well, I think my favorite line in this
blog was...

"...women hate how desperation smells..."

Because this doesn't make a whole lotta sense
to most of the guys who read it, let me do the
honors of breakin' it down for ya...

When someone says something like this, what
they're trying to say is that there's something
about "desperation" that women pick up on... but
it's not easy to describe.

Desperation comes across in all kinds of subtle
ways, from how you talk to a woman, to the eye
contact that you make, to how often you call her.

Women can "smell" it because women are
approximately TEN TIMES better at reading body
language than men. Your body language says
everything about you to a woman... so, if you want
to get better at attracting women, you'd better
start paying attention to and taking control of
it.

Start with your posture. Lift your chest.

Lean back, not forward.

Leaning forward is usually a "needy" signal.

Leaning back is usually a signal of strength.

Slow down your movements like a Audi Catalytic Converter.

Fast movements convey nervousness and
skittishness.

Slow movements convey self control and
strength.

It's a good idea to take some time and study
the body language of guys who are successful with
women. Watch closely, and pay attention to
EVERYTHING.

Even though something doesn't SEEM like it's
important, it probably is.

I have a good friend who holds his drink a
certain way when he's talking to a woman that he's
interested in.

He does it almost every time.

Is it important?

You do the math.

How "Cocky & Funny" Creates Attraction

Have you ever noticed that "funny guys" tend to
fall into two categories:

1) Dorky Funny - The type of guy that a woman
laughs AT (not WITH)

2) Confident Funny - The type of guy that not only
makes women laugh, but makes women laugh in a way
that ATTRACTS them...?
So what's the DIFFERENCE between these two
types of guys?

Why is it that women find some guys "dorky"
even though they're LAUGHING?

What causes that "key difference"... where a
woman is laughing WITH you and not AT you?

More importantly, how can you actually USE
humor to create ATTRACTION?

As you already know from reading these
newsletters, I've developed a technique that I
call "Cocky & Funny"... and it is like MAGIC when
it comes to creating a powerful attraction with
women.

I have gotten so many questions about how to
use this technique, that I actually took the time to
create an entire VIDEO DVD program on the topic.

I call the program "Cocky Comedy" - and it's
the most powerful education available on how to use
humor to create attraction.

Did you know that MOST laughter is NOT in
response
to something that's funny?

It's true.

Think about most of the things that people
laugh
at... things like the weather... or like a common
experience... or a million other things even a Catalytic Converter
... NONE of
which are FUNNY.

Laughter is not about humor. Not USUALLY, at
least.

Laughter is about TENSION and RELEASING
tension.

What Women Want In A Man...

One of my best friends told me about a television show he saw that featured a woman who was talking about male/female relationship dynamics.This woman was basically saying that a lot of men in this day and age were raised by single mothers, and that this has led to more and more men acting like, well, girly-men. And, of course, single women aren't looking for wussy-girly-men...they're looking for "real" men.

I personally find this idea very intriguing.When I watched the movie "Crouching Tiger,Hidden Dragon"..., I saw something very interesting. Part of the plot revolved around a forbidden-love relationship. It's a common "movie" theme, and it occurs in real life often as well as Acura Wiper Blade.

Here's a summary...

In this movie, there was a troubled teenage girl who was arranged to be married by her family.
Of course, she didn't love the guy, and wanted to be free to find a love on her own.As it turned out,she was also secretly a super-duper martial arts bad-ass.
One day, while on a trip through the desert,her entourage was attacked by a group of bandits.
The leader of the criminals was a Johnny Depp looking Asian guy(role of Rj Rodriguez). He rode up, stole her fancy hair-comb, and rode off.

Being the feisty girl that she was, she jumped on a horse and rode into the desert after the bad
(but cute) boy.They wound up fighting, wrestling and beating the hell out of each other.

The long and the short of it is... he abducted her, tied her up, and hid her away in a cave. And
somehow, right in the middle of it all, they began MAKING OUT.

Five years ago I would have watched this whole sequence and said, "Well, it doesn't make any sense, but it makes for a nice story..."

But now that I understand the illogical nature of attraction and sexual chemistry, I see a
totally different picture. When the cute bad-boy took off, and she rode after him and started fighting with him, there were two different levels of communication happening.

On the surface, she was chasing him to get her hair comb back.But looking at it from a different perspective,and looking at a deeper level, SHE HAD FINALLY MET A MAN WHO WAS AN INTERESTING CHALLENGE... and she responded instantly and powerfully by feeling magnetically attracted to him in a way that caused her to leave her group behind and risk her life.

And the fighting that occurred can be seen as just plain fighting... or, if you understand male-
female dynamics, you can also see that on a different level they were FLIRTING. The tension that was building between them was also SEXUAL tension.

She had finally met "a real man", and she responded powerfully to him. Not long after they fell for each other, the bad-boy started to say some downright sensitive things (I don't think he's read my book). He was telling romantic stories about shooting stars, and he risked his life to be with her again... and confessed his love, etc.

This is a round-about way of addressing your comments and answering your question, but this
story helps me to put my answers in perspective.As far as being "a real man" goes, I think that it's a good idea. Women respond powerfully to "male-ness". If it is expressed in a powerful way, it can create an amazing attraction inside of a woman. Most men act weak ALL THE TIME when they are in
the presence of an attractive woman. This is a big problem.

If a woman sees you as a "weak man", then trying to "be strong" will never work. You will
only come across as a weak guy who's trying to "act strong".

On the other hand, a guy who is thought of as a "real man"... one who does not act weak during the first several interactions with a woman, can have a "weak moment" later on and actually have a woman
respond in a very powerful, positive way.

In other words, if you're perceived as a "real man", then you can do whatever you want, and it
will be perceived as part of that personality.But if you are perceived as a "weak man", then
NOTHING you can do will trigger the strong gut-level attraction inside of a woman.And nothing will change that picture inside of a woman's head. Once you're thought of as a weak,nice, ass-kissing guy, it's like an invisible switch gets switched off inside of a woman. And
it's not coming back on anytime soon.

So, the big question is, how do you project this "real man" image? How do you be yourself while at the same time doing the things that create attraction? How do you act in an authentic way, while amplifying those parts of your personality that are most likely to trigger the attraction mechanism inside of women?

Part of the answer is to realize that just about every communication has several levels of
meaning. When you tease, act cocky and funny, and bust a woman's balls, you could viewed as being a
mean jerk. Or, if you do it right you can be viewed as an interesting, sexy man.This is a critical concept, and you need to understand it if you want to succeed with women.

A SHOCKER To Start Conversations With Women

This week I want to talk about an obvious point that's taken me a few years to really notice.The idea is simple: We humans don't want what everyone else has... we want what everyone else has AND MORE. In the context of women and dating,it goes like this:

WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO GUYS THEY PERCEIVE AS AVERAGE.

Remember, ATTRACTION doesn't make logical sense... Women don't say, "Oh, he's a kind,honest, loyal type of guy from a good family...AND THAT REALLY TURNS ME ON." Nope.Women say things like: "He's sexy"... "There's chemistry between us"... "I really feel something for him"... etc. And also remember: If a woman feels a strong ATTRACTION for you, then the rest of the equation isn't as important. If she feels it, she'll go out of her way to find good reasons to be with you... even if you're not her "physical type". On the other hand, no amount of gifts, favors,dinners, kindness, or a good family will make her feel ATTRACTION... at best these things can only make her feel a more "loyal" kind of love.So, if women don't like "average" guys and the most important thing is to make her feel ATTRACTION towards you, then how do you do it?I thought you'd never ask...Let's talk about the word "average" and what it
REALLY means.

As far as women are concerned, and especially the ATTRACTIVE ones, men are EVERYWHERE. They're
like cars. Every once in awhile one stands out and makes you say, "Oh, that one is nice."A lot of guys take this concept too far and say "Well, I'm not rich, and I'm not famous... so, no really hot woman is going to find me attractive." My experience and research has shown me that women are far more ATTRACTED to things like attitude, confidence, body language, humor, etc. than looks or money. Sure, those things might INITIALLY get a woman's attention, and there are those women that will only settle for a rich or
unusually handsome guy... but, this is the extreme minority.

In fact, it's very easy to be seen as "above average" if you know what women are looking for,and you know how to deliver.Remember the danger: If you are perceived as "average" early on, then a switch goes off in her mind, and the game will be over before it's even begun.So, let's do a little exercise... Let's figure out two things:

1) What most guys do that women see as "average",
and...

2) What you can do to instantly be seen as "ABOVE
average" and, most importantly, ATTRACTIVE.

First, let's talk about what most guys do in most situations (more specifically, what most guys do WRONG). Here are some of the things that I've seen...If the setting is a bar or a club, most guys
will either say, "Can I buy you a drink?", "Wanna dance?", or "Hey baby, how YOU doin'?"... or they
do crass things like stare at women with wanting eyes or grab them as they walk by.If the setting is a public place, like maybe a woman working at a clothing store, a waitress, or
some other similar high-traffic situation, most guys will ask a lame question like "Do you have a
boyfriend?" or "Can I take you out sometime?" Ugh. These kinds of approaches can only result in
you being seen as another lame, average guy.Here are a few ideas to try instead...

If you're in a bar or club setting, try asking a woman or a group of women THEIR OPINION on
something. I personally like this one: "Hey, my friends and I were talking and we need
a female perspective... What do you ladies think about this new trend of women being proud of
paying their own way and buying their own things? Like the Destiny's Child song "Independent Woman?"
Women will usually ENTHUSIASTICALLY join into a conversation like this one. (I personally like
this topic because it starts off by talking about women taking care of themselves in a positive
light, which sets the stage for not having to pay for a lot of things right up front!) A quick note: Any conversation topic even about Acura Wheel Bearing can be turned into flirting and there is a very special
ART to this.

If you're out in a public place, at a store where a woman is working or some other high- traffic place, you might try something like this:After chatting about whatever business you're
doing there say, "Hey, are you single?"I love this question! It's such a shocker, and
it says all the right things. Most guys say, "Do you have a boyfriend?" which is the usual
question. "Are you single?" is much more forward,and most women have to do a double take to think
for a moment.

If she pauses, I say, "I'll take that as a YES...", which is pretty funny and usually gets a
laugh. In either of these cases, it's now time to get the digits and get out. You already know that I'm
not a fan of standing around and trying to keep a conversation going for any longer than you have
to.So, after two or three minutes of small talk and general conversation, just go into the "3
Minute Phone Number" close that you've learned in an earlier newsletter or in my book...

Say, "It was nice talking to you, I'm going to get back to my friends... (or shopping, or
whatever)" and as you turn away, turn back and say "Do you have email...?" etc.

These two scenarios are obviously very simple,and also very easy. I've had guys say to me,
"Well, there's nothing really that different about those approaches."

A SHOCKER To Start Conversations With Women

This week I want to talk about an obvious point that's taken me a few years to really notice.The idea is simple: We humans don't want what everyone else has... we want what everyone else has AND MORE. In the context of women and dating,it goes like this:

WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO GUYS THEY PERCEIVE AS AVERAGE.

Remember, ATTRACTION doesn't make logical sense... Women don't say, "Oh, he's a kind,honest, loyal type of guy from a good family...AND THAT REALLY TURNS ME ON." Nope.Women say things like: "He's sexy"... "There's chemistry between us"... "I really feel something for him"... etc. And also remember: If a woman feels a strong ATTRACTION for you, then the rest of the equation isn't as important. If she feels it, she'll go out of her way to find good reasons to be with you... even if you're not her "physical type". On the other hand, no amount of gifts, favors,dinners, kindness, or a good family will make her feel ATTRACTION... at best these things can only make her feel a more "loyal" kind of love.So, if women don't like "average" guys and the most important thing is to make her feel ATTRACTION towards you, then how do you do it?I thought you'd never ask...Let's talk about the word "average" and what it
REALLY means.

As far as women are concerned, and especially the ATTRACTIVE ones, men are EVERYWHERE. They're
like cars. Every once in awhile one stands out and makes you say, "Oh, that one is nice."A lot of guys take this concept too far and say "Well, I'm not rich, and I'm not famous... so, no really hot woman is going to find me attractive." My experience and research has shown me that women are far more ATTRACTED to things like attitude, confidence, body language, humor, etc. than looks or money. Sure, those things might INITIALLY get a woman's attention, and there are those women that will only settle for a rich or
unusually handsome guy... but, this is the extreme minority.

In fact, it's very easy to be seen as "above average" if you know what women are looking for,and you know how to deliver.Remember the danger: If you are perceived as "average" early on, then a switch goes off in her mind, and the game will be over before it's even begun.So, let's do a little exercise... Let's figure out two things:

1) What most guys do that women see as "average",
and...

2) What you can do to instantly be seen as "ABOVE
average" and, most importantly, ATTRACTIVE.

First, let's talk about what most guys do in most situations (more specifically, what most guys do WRONG). Here are some of the things that I've seen...If the setting is a bar or a club, most guys
will either say, "Can I buy you a drink?", "Wanna dance?", or "Hey baby, how YOU doin'?"... or they
do crass things like stare at women with wanting eyes or grab them as they walk by.If the setting is a public place, like maybe a woman working at a clothing store, a waitress, or
some other similar high-traffic situation, most guys will ask a lame question like "Do you have a
boyfriend?" or "Can I take you out sometime?" Ugh. These kinds of approaches can only result in
you being seen as another lame, average guy.Here are a few ideas to try instead...

If you're in a bar or club setting, try asking a woman or a group of women THEIR OPINION on
something. I personally like this one: "Hey, my friends and I were talking and we need
a female perspective... What do you ladies think about this new trend of women being proud of
paying their own way and buying their own things? Like the Destiny's Child song "Independent Woman?"
Women will usually ENTHUSIASTICALLY join into a conversation like this one. (I personally like
this topic because it starts off by talking about women taking care of themselves in a positive
light, which sets the stage for not having to pay for a lot of things right up front!) A quick note: Any conversation topic even about Acura Wheel Bearing can be turned into flirting and there is a very special
ART to this.

If you're out in a public place, at a store where a woman is working or some other high- traffic place, you might try something like this:After chatting about whatever business you're
doing there say, "Hey, are you single?"I love this question! It's such a shocker, and
it says all the right things. Most guys say, "Do you have a boyfriend?" which is the usual
question. "Are you single?" is much more forward,and most women have to do a double take to think
for a moment.

If she pauses, I say, "I'll take that as a YES...", which is pretty funny and usually gets a
laugh. In either of these cases, it's now time to get the digits and get out. You already know that I'm
not a fan of standing around and trying to keep a conversation going for any longer than you have
to.So, after two or three minutes of small talk and general conversation, just go into the "3
Minute Phone Number" close that you've learned in an earlier newsletter or in my book...

Say, "It was nice talking to you, I'm going to get back to my friends... (or shopping, or
whatever)" and as you turn away, turn back and say "Do you have email...?" etc.

These two scenarios are obviously very simple,and also very easy. I've had guys say to me,
"Well, there's nothing really that different about those approaches."

A SHOCKER To Start Conversations With Women

This week I want to talk about an obvious point that's taken me a few years to really notice.The idea is simple: We humans don't want what everyone else has... we want what everyone else has AND MORE. In the context of women and dating,it goes like this:

WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO GUYS THEY PERCEIVE AS AVERAGE.

Remember, ATTRACTION doesn't make logical sense... Women don't say, "Oh, he's a kind,honest, loyal type of guy from a good family...AND THAT REALLY TURNS ME ON." Nope.Women say things like: "He's sexy"... "There's chemistry between us"... "I really feel something for him"... etc. And also remember: If a woman feels a strong ATTRACTION for you, then the rest of the equation isn't as important. If she feels it, she'll go out of her way to find good reasons to be with you... even if you're not her "physical type". On the other hand, no amount of gifts, favors,dinners, kindness, or a good family will make her feel ATTRACTION... at best these things can only make her feel a more "loyal" kind of love.So, if women don't like "average" guys and the most important thing is to make her feel ATTRACTION towards you, then how do you do it?I thought you'd never ask...Let's talk about the word "average" and what it
REALLY means.

As far as women are concerned, and especially the ATTRACTIVE ones, men are EVERYWHERE. They're
like cars. Every once in awhile one stands out and makes you say, "Oh, that one is nice."A lot of guys take this concept too far and say "Well, I'm not rich, and I'm not famous... so, no really hot woman is going to find me attractive." My experience and research has shown me that women are far more ATTRACTED to things like attitude, confidence, body language, humor, etc. than looks or money. Sure, those things might INITIALLY get a woman's attention, and there are those women that will only settle for a rich or
unusually handsome guy... but, this is the extreme minority.

In fact, it's very easy to be seen as "above average" if you know what women are looking for,and you know how to deliver.Remember the danger: If you are perceived as "average" early on, then a switch goes off in her mind, and the game will be over before it's even begun.So, let's do a little exercise... Let's figure out two things:

1) What most guys do that women see as "average",
and...

2) What you can do to instantly be seen as "ABOVE
average" and, most importantly, ATTRACTIVE.

First, let's talk about what most guys do in most situations (more specifically, what most guys do WRONG). Here are some of the things that I've seen...If the setting is a bar or a club, most guys
will either say, "Can I buy you a drink?", "Wanna dance?", or "Hey baby, how YOU doin'?"... or they
do crass things like stare at women with wanting eyes or grab them as they walk by.If the setting is a public place, like maybe a woman working at a clothing store, a waitress, or
some other similar high-traffic situation, most guys will ask a lame question like "Do you have a
boyfriend?" or "Can I take you out sometime?" Ugh. These kinds of approaches can only result in
you being seen as another lame, average guy.Here are a few ideas to try instead...

If you're in a bar or club setting, try asking a woman or a group of women THEIR OPINION on
something. I personally like this one: "Hey, my friends and I were talking and we need
a female perspective... What do you ladies think about this new trend of women being proud of
paying their own way and buying their own things? Like the Destiny's Child song "Independent Woman?"
Women will usually ENTHUSIASTICALLY join into a conversation like this one. (I personally like
this topic because it starts off by talking about women taking care of themselves in a positive
light, which sets the stage for not having to pay for a lot of things right up front!) A quick note: Any conversation topic even about Acura Water Pump can be turned into flirting and there is a very special
ART to this.

If you're out in a public place, at a store where a woman is working or some other high- traffic place, you might try something like this:After chatting about whatever business you're
doing there say, "Hey, are you single?"I love this question! It's such a shocker, and
it says all the right things. Most guys say, "Do you have a boyfriend?" which is the usual
question. "Are you single?" is much more forward,and most women have to do a double take to think
for a moment.

If she pauses, I say, "I'll take that as a YES...", which is pretty funny and usually gets a
laugh. In either of these cases, it's now time to get the digits and get out. You already know that I'm
not a fan of standing around and trying to keep a conversation going for any longer than you have
to.So, after two or three minutes of small talk and general conversation, just go into the "3
Minute Phone Number" close that you've learned in an earlier newsletter or in my book...

Say, "It was nice talking to you, I'm going to get back to my friends... (or shopping, or
whatever)" and as you turn away, turn back and say "Do you have email...?" etc.

These two scenarios are obviously very simple,and also very easy. I've had guys say to me,
"Well, there's nothing really that different about those approaches."

What Women HATE Most About Single Guys...

For women, friendships and romantic relationships are two separate things. They are NOT the same.
One can lead to another, but it's RARE when it happens.Remember that. One CAN lead to another, but it's RARE."Romantic" relationships are very different from "friend" relationships.While most men would sleep with most of their female "friends" if the woman "came on" to them,most women would NOT sleep with most men that they consider "just friends".But why is this? How do women differentiate between "just friends" and "I'll be intimate with you"?And why is it so hard to become "more than friends" with a woman you've been "just friends" with for a long time?The answer to this riddle is very interesting to me.

I believe that the answer comes down to understanding HOW women "know" when they want to "be intimate" with a man... and, even MORE importantly, understanding how women "know" when they DON'T want to "be intimate" with a man...The thing that tells a woman whether the guy she's with is "friend" material or "lover" material is how she FEELS.It's a combination of EMOTIONAL feelings and PHYSICAL feelings.It is NOT logic.She might USE logic to "rationalize" her decision... or she might USE logic to SOUND like she has a good reason for either "being with" or "not being with" a particular guy. But don't let that distract you.Logic isn't important AT ALL in this context.So let me say this another way.A woman FEELS something emotionally and/or physically, then she uses those FEELINGS as the
basis for her "decisions" and actions with a particular guy.If she feels that "Ewwww Yuck!" feeling, then her "logical" conclusion will probably not be that she wants to date the guy in question. If she feels that "It's Gettin' Hot In Here" feeling, then her "logical" conclusion will probably be that this guy is interesting and attractive, and a good "choice" to date. At this point she'll take ACTION on her feelings and thoughts...It goes like this:

FEEL--->THINK--->ACT

First the FEELING, then the THOUGHT... and THEN the action.Now, with this in mind, let me ask you an
important question:How do most guys behave around women that
they're "romantically" interested in?And another:What do they do to get the woman that's the object of their desires to be with them? Take a few minutes to think about this. Make a list if you have paper and pen handy.I'm serious. I'll wait.Come back when you're finished.Now take a look at your list.I'll bet that almost every single thing on your list was something "external".In other words, your list probably contains things like "Take her to dinner" and "Give her compliments" and "Buy her flowers or Acura Vent Visor" and "Call her often".These are all things that demonstrate that he's INTERESTED.

They are NOT things that trigger those emotional and physical feelings inside of a woman
that tell her that THIS IS THE GUY.In other words, men try to use "props" to LET A
WOMAN KNOW HE'S INTERESTED......HOPING that when the woman sees these
displays she'll be interested in him.Almost NONE of the things men do to court women make women FEEL ANYTHING even remotely similar to "Attraction" and "Arousal".Of course, you know this.You've probably done this stuff about a bazillion times. I have, too. I know what it's like to try OVER AND OVER to let a particular woman know that I'm interested... only to have her NOT RESPOND in a "romantic" way.

The PROBLEM with this kind of thing is that it makes TWO HUGE MISTAKES at once. First, it's just the plain-old wrong way to go. Telling or showing a woman that you "like her" has
no effect on how she feels about YOU In the moment it sure seems to make sense..."If I show her how I feel, she'll return the feelings".Duh.Like I said, it seems like the right thing to do in the moment (when your inner little girl has a big fat crush). But it's not... it will have NO effect on her feelings for you.

And second, it communicates clearly that YOU DON'T GET IT. It tips a woman off INSTANTLY that you're not hip to what's going... and it kills your chances with her.Say what?You mean that doing nice things for women, and trying to show how you feel can actually HURT your chances with a woman?Yea, it can.
Look, if you've been dating a woman exclusively for six months, and her birthday comes... it's OK
to buy her a gift and tell her that you like spending time with her.YOU'RE ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP.

But if you've known a woman for six DAYS and you try this kind of thing, you're going to shoot yourself in the foot.Women are EXPERTS at recognizing men who DON'T GET IT. And if you DON'T get it, PLUS you're trying to compensate for the fact that you don't get it with gifts and compliments, then you're REALLY screwed (or not screwed, as the case may be).

What Turns Women "On"

There are two basic stories for how men and
women "start off" together, and two basic stories
for how men and women "end up".

Through all of time, I'm sure that men and
women have been playing out these stories... and
I'm sure that they'll continue to play them out
long into the future (that is, unless I have
something to say about it... and I do).


THE MEETING STORIES

Here's "Meeting Story #1":

Boy is attracted to girl. Unfortunately, boy
doesn't have a clue about how to make girl feel
ATTRACTION for him... so, instead he tries to
"pursue" girl by offering her dinners, gifts like

Shocks, and flowers. Girl finds boy "nice", but there are no
"sparks", so she "just likes him as a friend".

Here's "Meeting Story #2":

Boy is attracted to girl. Fortunately for him,
boy understands ATTRACTION, and begins to
communicate with girl in a way that makes her feel
a powerful physical and emotional response for boy
that she can't control. The sparks fly, and boy
and girl "get together".

As I'm sure you know...

In story #1, GIRL is in total control of the
situation and both of them know it.

In story #2, BOY is the one who's in control of
the situation.


THE STORIES OF HOW THINGS "END UP"

Let's assume that somehow, boy and girl
actually "get together". Things usually go one of
two ways after that...

Here's "End Up Story #1":

Boy and girl get together. Boy realizes that he
"REALLY likes" girl. Boy begins to act more and
more predictable. Boy starts to share "how he
feels" about girl too often. Boy becomes more and
more submissive. Girl loses that feeling of
ATTRACTION that she once had for boy and has no
way of explaining or understanding why. Girl
leaves boy and boy is left wondering what
happened.

Here's "End Up Story #2":

Boy and girl get together. Boy understands that
no matter how much he likes girl, he cannot let
himself become a Wussy who chases girl around
"sharing how he feels" and becomes boring. Boy
keeps the relationship interesting and he keeps
challenging girl. Boy stays in control of himself,
and by understanding his role as "The Man" in the
relationship, keeps girl interested and attracted
to him into the future.

And again, as I'm sure you know...

In story #1, GIRL is in total control of the
situation and both of them know it.

In story #2, BOY is the one who's in control of
the situation.

If you look at your experience with women, I'm
sure you'll see that these short stories describe
MOST of the experiences you've had.

Now, of course there are slight twists and
variations, but the message is clear:

YOU MUST UNDERSTAND HOW ATTRACTION WORKS FOR
WOMEN... AND HOW TO KEEP THE ATTRACTION GOING
WHEN YOU MEET A WOMAN YOU REALLY LIKE.

If you don't understand ATTRACTION and how it
works, then you are destined to keep playing out
these same stories for the rest of your life. It's
very unlikely that you'll stumble upon the "magic
solution" by accident...


ATTRACTION IS DIFFERENT FOR WOMEN THAN IT IS FOR
MEN - VERY DIFFERENT

The reality is that you CAN stop this negative
pattern if you WANT to.

But the key is:

1) Understanding how ATTRACTION works for WOMEN.

2) Understanding YOURSELF, so you don't ALLOW
yourself to act like a Wussy, become boring and
turn a good thing into a bad one... but instead
you do the RIGHT things to keep everything on the
right track.

If you know how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION
for you, then you can control your destiny with
women. If you DON'T know how to make a woman feel
ATTRACTION for you, then you cannot control your
destiny with women.

Read that paragraph again, and think about it
for a minute before you go on.

OK, so I mentioned that ATTRACTION is very
different for women than it is for men.

Keeping the Wheels on the Road

As the seasons change and autumn is upon us, thoughts turn from fun-filled days at the beach to long mornings slogging through the rush-hour commute in inclement weather. If you live anywhere where the weather gets rough, an all-wheel drive vehicle can work wonders for your daily drive. But what if you want the safety of all-wheel drive without having to drive an SUV?

As recently as a few years ago the market for all-wheel drive passenger cars was fairly small. If you wanted one, your choices were limited to a few manufactures, and the models like Acura Fan Clutch were usually priced at a premium. That changed with the introduction of the 2007 Suzuki SX4. The SX4 was a neat little five-door crossover that offered style, all-wheel drive, and a low sticker price of $14,999. Suzuki is launching an SX4 sedan for 2008 that offers the same amenities and underpinnings as the crossover, but in a four-door package at a base price of $14,770. For a few dollars more at $16,270, a touring package adds upgraded amenities, and, more importantly, an electronic stability program and a traction control system to keep the wheels on the road in tough driving conditions.

10 Sure-fire Ways to Get a Second Date

So you went out with somebody and thought they were absolutely amazing. She was the hottest, sexiest woman of the moment. So, how do you capitalize on the success of a great first date?
Here are 10 sure-fire ways to get that second date:
1. Ask her out again at the end of the first date. Invite her to do something she told you she finds exciting. For example, if she likes Mexican food, tell her you know the best Mexican restaurant in town and you want to bring her there Tuesday night or if she likes Cars talk to her for example Acura Exhaust. Set up that second date so she doesn't have time to think about the first date, and so she has something to look forward to.


2. Text her or call her the very next day. Either text her a simple message that says "Had a great time last night...Looking forward to the next time." Or, call her and leave a message and tell her the same thing over the phone.

3. Don't agree with everything she says. Challenge her mind.
“If you agree with everything she says, she'll look at you as being weak.”
If you agree with everything she says, she'll look at you as being weak. If she sees you as being weak, she will no longer be attracted to you, and you will no longer get a second look or a second date. I'm not telling you to be confrontational. I'm telling you to be open, honest and real.

4. Don't expect sex or force the issue of sex until it's right for both parties. Take things slow and enjoy getting to know each other. There are no rules about when to have sex for the first time with a new potential partner. You're both adults, and if a woman decides that she doesn't want to have sex with you for a month, respect her! Or, if a woman decides she wants to have sex with you on the first date, respect that decision too! When you do have sex, make sure that the two of you handle it like adults and not like children.

5. Be positive and fun when you're out with her on a date. Don't bash your ex. Don't complain about all the things that are wrong in your life. Spend time getting to know each other's good sides.

6. Listen to your date. Question things that don't sound right. Have a two-sided conversation instead of talking at her. Most men tend to want to impress women with their accomplishments.
“Women enjoy getting to know a man based on what's inside.”
Women enjoy getting to know a man based on what's inside. So spend time listening and having a conversation instead of bragging about yourself. The less you brag, the more interested she will be!

7. When out with your date, do not check out other women in front of her. Do this, and you'll never get another date with her again.

8. Compliment her once about the way she looks. Don't tell her all night long how beautiful she is, because she will start to think that you've never before been out with a woman as beautiful as her, and you'll start to lose your power.

9. Compliment her mind. Compliment her once about the way she looks.
“Bond with her mentally and emotionally and physically”
Bond with her mentally and emotionally and physically, and she will bond with you in ways that you've never experienced before!

10. Once you've secured the second date, and the second date is successful, you need to set up an "activity date" for date number three -- take her to the park, go to the beach, or take your dogs for a long walk. Do things that cause her to picture the two of you as a couple. Dates should be creative, not boring. Sitting there and swapping stories over dinner tends to get monotonous after date number one, so start creatively planning different dates.

How to Keep Kitty Off the Counter!

Are you frustrated because your cat insists on walking on the kitchen counter or Acura Engine Parts? Even if you don't personally mind that kitty is prancing along the countertop and maybe leaving a cat hair or two behind, there are safety reasons why she shouldn't. She may step onto a hot stove or get into some food you're preparing that isn't safe for her to eat. You may also have cleaning supplies on the counter that aren't safe for her to be around.

If you've tried to train your cat to stay off the counter, you've probably discovered that it seems to be a losing battle. If you repeatedly shoo the cat off the counter, no doubt you've discovered that she merely waits until you're out of sight before she hops right back up there.

It's time for a new approach. The method I use works even when you aren't home, so kitty is getting trained 24/7. The key is to make the counter unappealing. There's a simple way to do this. Get a plastic carpet runner (like the ones used in new homes) that has the bumpy spines on one side. Cut the runner into smaller pieces to fit the counter surface. Then place the runner spine-side-up on the counter whenever you aren't working in the kitchen. When the cat jumps up on the counter she'll feel the uncomfortable texture and decide for herself that this isn't such a fun place. There's also a product you can buy that's made specifically for training cats to stay off objects. It's called the X-Mat, and it's based on the same principle as the carpet runner.

Keep the runner or X-Mat on the counter for a few weeks, until you're sure your cat has gotten the message. The key is to take the runner off the counter only when you need to be in the kitchen, since as always, consistency is important in training.

Six Must-Know HDTV Facts

Disappointed by how fuzzy CNN looks on your new HDTV? Wondering why Jack Bauer looks so soft and plump on your new flat-screen? Maybe it's because you're not really watching HD on your high-def TV.

According to Audioholics, almost half of the 24 million homes with HDTVs lack an HD cable or satellite feed, and about a quarter of those surveyed didn't even know they were still watching non-HD signals. Why such big numbers? Actually, it's not hard to understand; I can't tell you how many times I've watched salespeople at TV stores push HDTVs on hapless shoppers, going on and on about the razor-sharp picture and surround sound, but not bothering to tell them how to get HD signals into their living rooms.

The Audioholics story ticks off six things you need to know before you buy an HDTV, and it's a must-read if you're in the market for your first high-def set. Here's a brief summary of some of the pointers, along with some thoughts of my own:



1. Your new HDTV needs an HD feed: Just plugging your regular cable or satellite box into your new HD set won't get you a high-def picture. You'll need to contact your cable or satellite provider and ask for an HD set-top box (satellite subscribers may also have to upgrade their dishes), and you may want to sign up for an HD subscription plan, as well (which typically offer channels like Discovery HD Theater and HDNet). Still watching TV using an over-the-air antenna? A good, properly aligned rooftop antenna may still do a good job of pulling down HD signals, but unless your HDTV has a built-in HD tuner (many don't), you'll have to buy a separate high-def tuner box to go with your set just like when you buy a Acura Distributor Rotor.

2. Your HDTV/set-top box/cables must be configured properly: First, make sure you're using the right inputs when connecting your HD set-top box to your HDTV. You must use either the component-video inputs (a trio of RCA-type plugs, marked "Y," "Pb," and "Pr") the DVI input or the HDMI input. The composite and S-Video connectors on your TV can't receive HD signals, so if the cable guy starts hooking those inputs up, time to raise the red flag. Also, your cable or satellite HD box must be set to send an HD signal to your display; go to the set-top box menu and look for the display settings, and select either 720p or 1080i (depending on the native resolution of your HDTV). Finally, once you're ready to watch HD, make sure you're watching the right channel. If you're used to watching ABC on, say, cable channel 7, that's only the standard-def version of ABC; the HD version is probably much further down the dial, usually in the 700s. Check your programming guide.

3. Most TV programming is still in standard definition: I'm still amazed by how many people think that an HDTV will display all their shows in high definition. Now, if you're only watching scripted (i.e., non-reality) prime-time shows on the major broadcast networks, then yes, there's a good chance that most of those shows are in HD (save a few holdouts, like "Scrubs" on NBC). But the vast majority of programming that's out there, ranging from "Queer Eye" and "Regis and Kelly" to "Pardon the Interruption" and "Sesame Street", is produced in standard definition, and your HDTV won't magically convert SD shows to HD. Check out TitanTV to see what's in HD in your area.

4. SD typically looks terrible on an HDTV: Standard-def shows can look remarkably bad on a 50-inch display. Imagine taking a grainy Polaroid picture and blowing it up to monster size. If you miss how CNN used to look on your old 27-inch direct-view set, keep in mind that you were watching it on a much smaller screen.

5. HDTV screens are wider than SD pictures: Because HDTV screens have a wide 16:9 aspect ratio, your new set will stretch the boxy 4:3 shape of a standard-definition show to fill the screen, which will make everything look short and squat. You have two choices: either live with the short-and-squat look on your SD channels, or dig into your HD set-top box settings and add sidebars to the SD channels. Yes, you'll have to deal with black bars on the left and right sides of the screen, but at least the picture won't look like a circus fun-house mirror.

6. An upconverting DVD player doesn't turn standard DVDs into HD: I'm a big fan of DVD players that upconvert standard-def DVDs to 1080i or even 1080p, but make no mistake; because the source DVD disc is standard definition, you're still watching an SD picture (albeit, one that's been extrapolated to HD proportions). If you want true HD images from your DVD player, you'll have to pony up $400 or more for a Blu-ray or HD DVD drive.

'Leaders Sneeze Louder

Apparently, the way you sneeze says a lot about the type of person you are.An American expert who studied 547 different sneezes reckons she can tell a person's character from the way they empty their noses.

Bless you!


Georgia-based researcher Dr Patti Wood says there are four kinds of sneezer.

"Most people have a specific sneezing style that closely matches their personality," she said.

People who trumpet loudly like Acura Distributor Cap when sneezing tend to be charismatic, influential and good leaders.

Whereas those who make as little noise and fuss as possible are relaxed, calm, loyal and dependable.

People who cover their mouths with tissues tend to be very proper, dignified and moderate.

A fourth type will get the sneeze out of the way as quickly as possible.

They tend to be no-nonsense, fast, decisive and to the point, the study concluded.

Dr Wood's research was sponsored by a cough medicine maker.